Vulnerability Factors
What are vulnerability factors?
Things (usually states of being) that increase your likelihood of getting angry, staying angry, and having difficulty calming down.
What is authority?
Having some type of power over someone
What is a "you" statement?
It is a statement that blames the other person for the problem.
What are some examples of things that happen in the world that make us angry?
People staring, people being rude, feeling disrespected, having your stuff taken,
If you can't manage your anger in the moment, WALK AWAY. Remove yourself from the situation so you don't make it worse (for yourself or others).
What does the A in HALT stand for?
Angry
What are 2 examples of people who have authority?
Teachers, parents, cops, SUD counselors, elders, boss, etc.
Why are "you" statements bad?
They blame and accuse the other person. It is more likely to make the other person feel defensive and resentful and he/she will be less likely to want to see your position.
Step 2: Cues
What are some examples of physical changes (physiological sensations) that tell us we are angry?
shaking our leg, sweating, clenching fists, getting hot, getting red, heart rate goes up, breathe faster, blurry/tunnel vision
Why do we care about managing anger?
Because our anger can damage relationships with others. It makes them less likely to trust us. It can make them resentful towards us. It can damage our repuatation.
What does the H in HALT stand for?
Hungry
Why is it important to learn how to handle authority well?
It's always going to be there. If we handle it well, we can benefit. If we handle it well, we can stay safe.
How many steps are there in an "I" statement?
3
1. I feel...
2. When...
3. And what I'd like is...
Step 3: Anger Reducers
What are the two kinds of coping skills that we can use to reduce our anger?
Physical and mental coping skills
What are some examples of unhealthy coping?
Substance use, shouting/yelling, swearing at someone, running away, getting violent with someone, etc.
What does the T in HALT stand for?
Tired
What are some ways to deal with authority well?
Never roll your eyes, be polite, be direct, listen carefully, don't move around like you're getting aggressive, apologize when appropriate, etc.
"You never listen to me!!"
"I feel upset/angry/mad when you interrupt me and what I'd like is that you let me finish my thought before you respond.
Step 4: Reminders
What are some examples of mental reminders to stay calm and in control?
Positive self talk
Focus on the task at hand
What are some examples of healthy coping?
Take a deep breath, do some mindfulness, walk away, use "I" statements, think of the consequences before you act, etc.
What does the L in HALT stand for?
Lonely
What are the two main ways people exert/exercise their authority over people?
Punishment and rewards
When would we want to use "I" statements?
When we need to confront others about their behavior, we feel others are not treating us right, we feel defensive or angry, others are angry with us
Step 5: Thinking Ahead
What are some ways to prepare for the next time we get angry?
Think about the consequences, etc.
What is your go-to coping skill for when you are angry? Follow up: how well does this work for you?
(answers will vary)