Anger Management
Name three out of the eight core anger management skills discussed in the book.
Examples: Recognize stress, develop empathy, respond instead of react, change the conversation with yourself, communicate assertively, adjust expectations, forgive but don't forget, retreat and think things over.
A natural response to those situations where we feel threatened, we believe harm will come to us, or we believe that another person has unnecessarily wronged us.
Anger.
True of False: The way you express anger cannot be changed
False.
Behaviors are learned and you can learn to calm down more quickly with practice.
What is our body's response to life demands called.
Stressors.
When Dave tries to introduce himself during his first group session, Buddy repeatedly stops him because he doesn't want to know Dave's hobbies or job, but rather this....
"Who are you?"
Name one physical sign that anger is increasing.
Increased heart rate, muscle tension, clenched jaw, or feeling hot.
A behavior that is intended to cause harm to another person or damage property. This behavior can include verbal abuse, threats, or violent acts.
Aggression.
True or False: Anger is a secondary emotion.
True.
Anger may appear when we are disappointed, sad, tired, and many other emotions.
What types of phrases/statements are most effective when having conversations with someone that focuses on personal feelings rather than blaming the other person.
"I" phrases/statements
At the very beginning of the movie, a flashback shows a bully named Arnie embarrassing a young Dave by doing this to his clothing.
Pulling his pants down.
Name three long-term consequences of unmanaged anger.
Relationship problems, health issues, self-esteem, legal consequences, your children, and the workplace.
What are the warning signs that you're angry and that your anger is escalating called.
Cues.
True of False: Anger automatically leads to aggression.
False.
Effective anger management involves controlling the escalation of anger by learning assertiveness skills, changing negative and hostile thoughts, challenging irrational beliefs, and employing a variety of behavioral strategies.
What type of communication style do we want to participate in.
Assertive Communication.
What term does Buddy make his clients say to calm their rage.
Goosfraba.
As we become angry, we often engage in an internal dialogue, called _____-_____.
Self-Talk.
What does “emotional regulation” mean.
The ability to manage and respond to emotions in a healthy, controlled way.
True or False: Anger is a choice.
False.
Anger is a FEELING we have as a result of our emotion(s). What can be chosen is how you act upon those feelings.
What are the three of the six harmful communication styles called that we want to avoid.
Avoidance, Criticism, Passive-Aggressive, Aggression, Defensiveness, and Contempt.
This is the specific diagnosis Buddy gives Dave to justify moving in with him.
Toxic Anger Syndrome (TAS).
Name all of the types, or styles, of communication.
Passive (hiding your needs to please others), Aggressive (forcing your views on others), Passive-Aggressive (showing hidden anger indirectly), and Assertive (sharing your needs clearly while respecting others)
Define “fight‑or‑flight response” and how it relates to anger.
It’s the body’s survival reaction that increases arousal, making anger feel more intense.
True or False: There are 3 phases where anger leads to aggression.
True.
Buildup, Explosion, and Aftermath
What foundational interpersonal skill involves trying to genuinely understand what the other person is feeling and thinking during a tense disagreement.
Empathy.
What is the song called that Buddy makes Dave sing in the car on the way to Daves job called. To get this correct you must sing two lines from the song.
I feel pretty.
"I feel pretty, Oh, so pretty,
I feel pretty and witty and bright"