Anger Facts
Name 3 physical signs of anger.
• The pupils of the eyes open up (dilate) to let in more light.
• The heart pumps more blood to the brain.
• Breathing becomes faster and harder.
• The amount of blood sugar increases to provide more
energy.
• Digestion slows down.
• The skin begins to perspire to flush out waste products
and to keep the person cool.
1. Self-worth
2. Essential Needs
3. Basic Convictions
You just left Mcdonald's and discover they forgot your dessert do you dismiss or deal?
Dismiss. It is not an ongoing issue that needs to be dealt with and was an honest mistake that was not an intentional insult to self-worth
Dave's boss yelled at him for a mistake another co-worker made and did not correct him just accepting the punishment of docking his pay.
Passive
What is the first step in coping with anger?
Recognizing and admitting when you are angry
When angry the body releases adrenaline what is this response called?
Fight or Flight
What is something you set in order to make sure people respect your self-worth?
Boundaries
Your roommate keeps using your razor despite you setting the boundary that this is not ok do you dismiss or deal?
Deal. This is an ongoing issue that if not dealt with will cause anger to build risking an anger outburst. This is a threat to self-worth due to a boundary being set and broken.
Susan called Amazon regarding receiving a broken item. The representative is unwilling to give a refund or replacement. Susan starts threatening to get the representative fired and insulting their intelligence.
Aggressive
Identifying this will help prevent anger outbursts
Triggers
Name 4 different ways a person may express their anger.
1. Blaming and attacking
2. Sarcasm
3. Exaggerations
4. Withdrawal and Pouting
5. Projecting Guilt
6. Physical violence
Name 3 basic needs, for survival, that are a part of self-worth
1. Food
2. Water
3. Shelter
You're playing a video game with a friend and have lost to them 10 times. Do you dismiss or deal?
Dismiss. Losing at a game is not a perpetual problem that needs to be dealt with to avoid anger building up.
John borrows his roommate Mike's shirt without asking even though this was an established boundary. Mike tells John "I feel disrespected when you borrow my things without asking, and I feel insulted that you do this despite me telling you not to do it. "
Assertive
What coping skill involves going through every muscle group to tense and release the muscles to relax?
Progressive Muscle Relaxation
What is the self-defense mechanism where the person directs their anger at a less threatening target?
Displacement
Insults to personal worth are always intentional TRUE or FALSE ?
False. Everyone has different standards of conduct and the person may not know what your boundaries are.
You discover in adulthood that your sibling stole $100 from you that you were saving to go on a weekend trip that you ended up missing due to the missing funds when you were 14 years old. Dismiss or Deal?
Deal. Even though it happened many years ago not dealing with the anger at this discovery could create resentment damaging the relationship.
Kim is working as a cashier in the 15 items or less check out line and a customer with 40 items comes to their register. Kim tells the customer they will check them out this time but for future reference this is the 15 item or less line and they have too many items. Was Kim aggressive, assertive, or passive?
Assertive. Kim showed respect to themselves by identifying the work rules without disrespect to the customer.
When a problem is likely to keep reoccurring what is the best way to cope with your anger?
First use calming techniques then find possible ways to solve the problem.