Working it Out
Bully Free Zone
Red Zone
Communication
100

True or False?  In every conflict, there is a winner and a loser.

False!

100

Who is responsible for preventing bullying at our school?

Everyone!

100

True or False?  No one else can MAKE you mad.

True

100

Name five feeling words.

Sad, glad, mad, angry, afraid, happy, excited, frustrated, joyful, irritated, bored, lonely, furious, etc.

200

True or False?  It is possible to de-escalate a conflict after the other person has called you names.

True

200

True or False?  Bullying is a normal part of growing up?

False

200

Name two physical signs of your body’s anger response.

Fast heartbeat

Sweating/hot skin

Clenched fists

Shaking hands

Ect.

200

Which communication style works best in most cases?

Assertive

300

What is a compromise?

When both people win a little and lose a little.

300

Name one good thing a target can do about bullying.

Speak up and tell the bully to stop; be assertive, report the bullying.

300

Name two good ways to reduce angry feelings.

Relax yourself, distract yourself, talk to yourself, use a fidget, talk to someone else.

300

Name two characteristics of a passive communication style

Little or no eye contact; nervous, apologetic, slumped shoulders; don’t stand up for themselves, etc.

400

What are the ABC’s of solving conflicts?

Attack the problem, not the person; Brainstorm together; Consider the consequences and choose win-win.

400

Name two good things a witness can do about bullying

Support the target, report the bullying; provide safety in numbers.

400

Name one thing you could say to yourself to reduce your angry feelings.

Calm down; They’re trying to make me mad, but I won’t give them the satisfaction; I can handle this, etc.

400

Give an example of an I-message

I feel _________ when you _________ because _________.  I want _______.

500

Name three things you can do to escalate a conflict.

Use words like “let’s”, “we,” “our” and “together.  Call the other person by name. 

Instead, relax your body, use a calm voice ask to hear the other point of view.

500

Define Bullying

Bullying is repeatedly hurting, threatening, teasing, or frightening someone else in order to feel powerful.

500

Name two good things to do or say when you feel angry.

Walk away; use an I-message, Use humor

500

Name three characteristics of an aggressive communication style.

Loud, rude, sarcastic; in your face; name-calling, blaming, threatening; you-messages, pointing finger, shaking fists; glaring eye contact