Rude, Mean, or Bullying?
Whenever Noah is on the playground with a ball, an older kid always takes it from him.
Bullying--The older kid did it on purpose, they chose a specific target, and it has happened again and again.
You see Micah shove Meredith down on the ground on the basketball court during recess. Should you help her up and tell Micah to stop, laugh at Meredith and give Micah a high-five, or walk away and ignore the situation?
Help her up and tell Micah to stop.
What is an example of physical bullying?
Examples of physical bullying are hitting, kicking, or breaking someone's toys on purpose.
Amera called Thomas dumb because he didn't do well on the math quiz.
Mean--Amera said it on purpose, but she didn't chose a specific target, and it only happened once.
You're working in a group for a project. Thomas keeps insulting Toby's ideas for the project and telling him that he's stupid. Should you also tell Toby that his ideas are lame, or should you tell him that you want to hear his ideas and that he's not stupid?
Tell Toby that you want to hear his ideas and that you don't think he's stupid.
What are examples of verbal bullying?
Examples of verbal bullying are name-calling, mean words, or teasing to make a person cry.
One of the boys walked past Linda and burped in her face.
Rude--This wasn't done on purpose, they didn't choose a specific target, and it didn't happen again and again.
David tells you that he's going to ignore Richard during lunch, sit somewhere else, and not tell Richard. He wants you to join him. What should you do?
Tell David that you're not going to join him because that's hurtful.
What is an example of social bullying?
Examples of social bullying is excluding someone from a group, spreading rumors, or telling people not to be friends with someone.
Prince offered everyone a candy except for Ezra. Prince says it's because Ezra is fat.
Mean--Prince did it on purpose, they chose a specific target, but it didn't happen again and again.
You see Andy write a mean note about Melissa and hang it on the wall. Should you just leave the note, take it off the wall and throw it away, or should you spread rumors about Melissa about the note?
Take the note off the wall and throw it away.
What is an example of cyber bullying?
Cyberbullying is using phones and computers, like text messaging or private messages, to send mean messages, post hurtful pictures, or spread gossip.
Someone knocked Melvin on the playground. They didn't stop or say sorry.
Rude--It wasn't on purpose, they didn't choose a specific target, and it only happened once.
Lenard sits down at the lunch table with his favorite homemade food. Sam looks at Lenard's lunch, makes a loud coughing sound, and says, "Ew, your food looks like garbage and smells like old socks!" Several other kids at the table laugh. Lenard looks down at his plate, feels his face get hot, and stops eating. This is the third time this week Sam has made fun of Lenard at lunch.
How can you help Lenard feel better?
You can sit next to Lenard and say loudly for everyone else to hear, "That looks good, Lenard! Can you tell me how it's made?" Then ignore Sam. This takes power away from Sam's mean words.
OR you can tell the teacher by telling him or her, "Sam is making fun of Lenard's food again, and Lenard looks really sad and stopped eating." Reporting is not "snitching"--it's getting help to protect someone who is being hurt.
What is an upstander?
An upstander is a person who sees someone being bullied and does something about it.