Skill Definition
Examples / How To
Steps of an apology
Other
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What is something we do to express regret or ask forgiveness from an individual for something he/she did or for a situation.

Apologize

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You got the last dessert that another peer wanted and they started to cry. 


How would you apologize? Do you need to? 

If you weren't taking the last dessert to be hurtful, you don't need to apologize. 
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Step 1

Say Sorry 

100

What is anger warning signs?

Mind goes blank, body shakes, punch walls, feels hot, crying, pacing, become argumentative.

200

What is the definition of apologizing. 


Something you say to someone when you are feeling awful for hurting another person. 

200

You accidentally bumped a peer and they fell down. 


How would you apologize to them? Do you need to? 

(help them up) I'm sorry I bumped into you, it was an accident. I wasn't watching where I was going. I'll try to be more aware of what I'm doing in the future. 

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Step 2 

Say what you're apologizing for. 

200
Stopping yourself, brainstorming, putting plan into action, thinking about how the plan worked.
What is the STOP - PLOT - GO - SO strategy?
300

When apologizing what does it mean to be sincere? 

Being truthful, but kind to others; always mean it when you apologize.

300

What is the purpose of apologizing? 

Primary goal is to repair relationship.

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Step 3

Explain why you did it and that it wasn't okay. 

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What would you do if the person you're apologizing to is still mad? 

......

400

How does a person feel before apologizing?

Anxious, afraid, nervous, hopeful.

400

Why is taking responsibility when you're apologizing important? 


Acknowledging that, whether or not the offense was intentional, they were accountable for doing harm.

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Step 4

Let the person know what you'll do next time, so as not to repeat their mistake again. 

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What are things that make apologies difficult? 

....

500

How might the person receiving the apology feel once they've received it?


Relieved, less upset, less angry, forgiving.

500

What can inadequate or insincere apology do?

Feel dismissive to the offended party and may heighten conflict.

500

How to show someone you are sincere with your apology? 

Try really hard to not do it again. 
500

What are the coping skills to staying calm when you feel angry?


Deep breath, counting to ten, walking away, self talk.