Triggers/Cues
What are the two types of triggers?
External and Internal.
Taking deep breaths is an example of what?
Anger reducers
Getting suspended for 3 days is an example of what type of consequence?
Short-term consequence.
What are social skills?
The tools that we use to communicate with people in effective ways to have positive interactions.
--- Any feeling----
What are cues?
The way your body tells you you're feeling angry.
Telling yourself its not worth it is an example of what?
Feeling guilty because you talked behind a friend's back and they have screenshots of your conversation is an example of what type of consequence?
Internal consequence. Remember internal is your feelings.
This is the social skill you use when you validate and acknowledge the way another person is feeling.
Understanding the feelings of others.
Name a type of personal boundary. (Hint: there were 6 of them)
Physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, time boundaries, intellectual boundaries, sexual boundaries, or material boundaries.
"People yelling at me," and "someone looking at me the wrong way" are examples of what type of trigger?
External triggers- anything that happens outside of you in your surroundings or that people do to you that gives you a negative reaction (anger, irritated, annoyed, etc).
What are the other two anger reducers we talked about?
Pleasant imagery and counting to 10 (backwards)
What is the difference between internal and external consequences.
Internal consequences will always mean the way you feel about a situation: feeling guilty, embarrassed, sad, nervous, mad, etc.
External consequences mean WHERE the consequences take place: at home, at school, at central office, at court, etc.
Remember your ABC's? What did each letter stand for? (100 pts for each correct letter)
Antecendent, Behavior, and Consequence.
(+100 bonus points if you can give an example utilizing each of the letters.)
Getting irritated quickly because you're tired, or really hungry are examples of what type of trigger?
Internal Trigger-- something that happens inside of you such as states of being (being tired, being hungry, being sleepy), or ruminating thoughts (thinking about situations over and over)
Why do we need reminders? What do reminders provide in the anger cycle?
Reminders are a way for us to remember what is important. For example if you value your education, or how people see you, or friendships, your reminders will be stronger because they are related to what you value. "Its not worth it because if I get in a fight I'm just going to keep getting suspended and I wont pass my classes."
What are the two types of self-evaluation and whats the difference?
Self-coaching (handing the situation not as well as you could have and needing more practice)
Self-reward (handling the situation in a positive/mature way.)
This is the social skill that you would use when someone is displaying anger and you don't want to get worked up as well and start escalating the situation back and forth.
Dealing with someone else's anger.
What are the two ways people EXPRESS emotions?
Nonverbal and verbal communication. (Ie- facial expressions/body language and saying how you're feeling)
Come up with 3 examples of CUES.
Balling up your fists, hear beat racing, feeling hot/warm, clenching your jaw, pacing back and forth, shaking your leg, etc.
(+ 100 bonus points if you can tell me the name of this human reactions when your adrenaline hits and your body tells you to do one of two things, hint: ___ or ___)
What is the difference between positive and negative coping skills/strategies?
While they both help you deal with the situation in calming down or disconnecting, negative coping skills usually deal with avoidance. Meaning once you're done the problem will still continue to be there and you didn't truly cope with the situation.
Short-term vs Long-term
Internal vs External
This is the social skill that you would use when you're trying not to get in a physical altercation with someone.
This is the social skill that you would use when you're experiencing people blame you for something.
1. Keeping out of fights.
2. Dealing with an accusation.
Name a moral problem that we reviewed and what were the main issues.
Luke's Problem, Antonio's Problem, Jim's Problem, Carmen's Problem, Gabe's Problem, etc.