Attachment Styles
Develops when you feel safe and supported
Secure Attachment
Behaviors: Suppressing emotions, denying needs, maintaining emotional or physical distance, and compulsive self-reliance.
Deactivating Strategies
“This always happens to me. I have terrible luck.”
Overgeneralization
Your friend hasn’t texted back, so you assume they’re mad at you
Mind Reading
In ACT we accept our thoughts without ______
Judgement
Develops out of fear of being unloved or abandoned
Anxious Attachment
involves increasing emotional expression and proximity-seeking to gain caregiver attention
Hyperactivating
“I only won because there was no competition.”
Disqualifying the positive OR minimization
Your coworker is quiet during a meeting, and you assume it’s because of something you said.
Personalization
False
Characterized by: Difficulty getting close to others, positive view of self, negative view of others, Independent and self-reliant
Avoidant Attachment
Minimizes importance of relationships, rationalizes emotional distance, devalues support, believes vulnerability is weakness.
Avoiding or Deactivating
You failed one test, so you think you’re terrible at school and will never succeed.
All or nothing thinking OR catastrophizing
One small mistake at work makes you think you’re completely incompetent at all things
Overgeneralization
What is the thoughts on the cloud strategy?
Imagine placing your thoughts on clouds high in
the sky. Watch as the clouds slowly drift away.
Remind yourself that thoughts—just like clouds—
have no actual substance as they come and go.
This person both fears abandonment and fears getting too close at the same time.
Disorganized or Fearful Avoidant
Numbing feelings with substances or escaping into activities to get attention or pull others closer
Hyperactivating
You believe that because you feel anxious about the presentation, it’s going to go terribly.
Emotional Reasoning
You get ten compliments and one criticism, and you obsess over the criticism
Mental Filter or Maximization / Minimization
What is Cognitive FUSION?
When we become one with out thoughts and take our thoughts as reality
This person says, ‘I just need to know we’re okay,’ and repeatedly checks for reassurance.
Anxious Attachment
Focusing on what’s wrong, assuming malicious intent from others, or seeing only the negative in situations.
Deactivating
You believe you should make everyone happy at all times or you’re a bad person.
Should Statements
You interpret neutral facial expressions as negative judgments
Mind Reading
Name 3 Cognitive Defusion strategies
??? Multiple answers!