Secure
What are the traits of children with secure attachment?
- in touch with their emotions
- communicates about emotions in a structured way
- overall higher self esteem
What are the traits of children with anxious attachment?
- worries about abandonment
- negative/ lesser view of self
- leans into dependency on others
What are the traits of children with avoidant attachment?
- seeks distance from those they are close with
- more independent/ self reliant
- reluctant to rely on people outside of themselves
What are the traits of children with disorganized attachment?
- a mix of anxious and avoidant
- sets boundaries but is unable to manage them
- overall higher anxiety toward relationships
Which attachment style creates the most emotionally stable children?
Secure attachment
What are some benefits of secure attachment?
Overall easier time dealing with emotional conflict as they already have a healthy baseline on managing these emotions.
How do you curb anxious attachment traits such as low self esteem?
improving communication, positive self talk, and working on overall self-esteem
How would you work on avoidant attachment behaviors?
responding instead of reacting to stressful situations as well as learning how to better regulate and control your emotions.
How would you work through disorganized attachment behaviors?
Therapy can be helpful for handling past trauma, maintaining open communication with your partner, and focus on healthy relationship building.
When do attachment styles begin to develop?
At birth
How does secure attachment form?
Children felt safe and secure with their caregiver as their caregiver was able to quickly and safely meet the needs of their child.
Often they play and interact with their children leading to positive experiences and memories.
How does anxious attachment form?
Caregivers are inconsistent with their care because of outside reasons such as life, other children, work, and much more. Parents can also show a lack of emotional availability leading the child to have inconsistent support.
How does avoidant attachment form?
Similar to anxious attachment, inconsistency in caregivers as well as trauma or full out rejection of emotions from the caregiver. Children with often learn early to suppress their emotions.
How does disorganized attachment form?
Similar to anxious and avoidant, inconsistencies and neglect can create a disorganized attachment. This attachment style is most rooted in trauma or abuse from childhood. The caregiver is seen as a place of comfort but also fear.
Why are attachment styles important?
Helps better understand how to navigate relationships and communicate our needs with others.
What percent of people have a secure attachment style?
What are the traits of an anxious attachment style in adult relationships
Craving intimacy from their partner which creates insecurity if they do not receive it, tend to be extremely dependent on their partner as well.
How is avoidant attachment shown in adult relationships?
Can be seen as emotionally and intimately detached from the relationship, seeming uninterested in the relationship.
How is disorganized attachment shown in adult relationships?
Wanting close relationships but also being fearful of the vulnerability that comes with the close relationships. May self sabotage out of fear of abandonment.
How do attachment styles impact romantic relationships further on?
How much has the secure attachment style decreased in adults?
It has decreased about 8% since 1988
What percent of people have an anxious attachment style?
5-11%
What is one of the first signs of avoidant attachment?
Does not want to show emotions or confide in those closest to them, a strong need for independence, and a refusal to rely on anyone
Why are we seeing an increase in disorganized attachment styles?
What attachment style is formed from neglect/ abandonment?
Disorganized attachment