Definitions
What is a reaction?
When you let your thoughts and emotions take over and you get lost in the moment.
Yelling at someone for bumping into you in the hall.
Reaction
You see someone cheating on a homework assignment.
Its neither big or small.
Does this issue directly affect you?
If it doesn't directly affect you, the right thing to do would be to quietly tell the teacher at the end of class what you saw.
Your friend is telling you about their weekend, you respond by saying that you are hungry.
on or off topic? what should have you said?
You got home from school really late because you stopped by the river on the way home. When you walked in the door your mom had a worried look on her face. What does a worried face look like? Why was she worried? What do you think you should say or do?
answer varies
What is a response?
When we take action to address what we can be addressed in a calm and appropriate manner. Once we do this we can let go and move on.
Calming saying to a friend that they hurt your feelings.
Response
A student continuously bothers you in class and at recess.
During class you keep talking to your friend about your new video game while the teacher is trying to teach a lesson.
When should you discuss your new game?
After dinner on Friday night you wanted to go to the movies, but your mom said no because she didn’t have enough time to wash the dishes, pick up your sister, and get you to the movie theater on time. How do you feel about this? What could you do or say so that you could still go to the movies?
answer varies
What is a small problem?
A problem that can be easily fixed, usually by yourself.
Yelling in the middle of class that you suspect someone is cheating.
Reaction.
You missed three days of school.
Medium sized problem. What should you do to fix this problem?
Someone asks how your weekend was, you explain what you did over the weekend for five minutes and then walk away.
On topic but what was inappropriate about this interaction?
You were at school having quiet free time. Everyone could choose something they wanted to do, so you chose to draw. You got out your favorite clicking pen that turned different colors every time you clicked. You were playing with your pen and you looked over at the girl next to you who was reading. She looked at you with a different look on her face that wasn’t very nice. What kind of face do you think she gave you? Why do you think she looked at you that way? What could you do about it?
What is a big problem?
A problem that usually requires the help of an adult (parent or teacher)
After a confrontation with a friend, you take a deep breathe and say that you want to talk about the problem later when you've had time to think about it.
Response
Your friends are ignoring you during lunch.
Answer varies.
How would you start a conversation with someone in art class?
Ask if they like art, what their favorite type or art is, what they are working on, etc.
The teacher asked you a question in class, but you didn't know the answer. How do you feel? What do you do?
What is theory of mind?
theory of mind is the understanding that others have intentions, desires, beliefs, perceptions, and emotions different from your own.
No right answer :)
You are having trouble at school and are feeling stressed.
Big problem. What can you do?
How would you start a conversation with someone in the lunch line that you want to get to know?
answer varies
In the lunch room, your friend dropped his tray and his food went all over the floor. What do you think he is feeling and what would you do?