Self-Care
True or False: Self-care means being selfish.
False. Self-care helps parents show up better for their children.
True or False: Asking for help means you are weak.
False. Asking for help is a strength and helps protect families.
What is a value?
Something important that guides how we want to live and parent.
What is a trigger?
Something that causes strong emotions or reactions.
True or False: Children should be asked to choose sides between parents.
False.
Name one body sign that tells you your battery may be getting low.
Complete this sentence: "I don't have to do parenting ______."
Alone.
True or False: Values-based parenting means never making mistakes.
False. It means returning to our values and repairing when mistakes happen.
True or False: Being triggered means you are a bad parent.
False. What matters is how you respond.
Who should be at the center of co-parenting decisions?
The child.
What is one thing you can do in one minute to recharge?
Drink water, take deep breaths, stretch, pray, listen to a song.
Name two people or supports you can reach out to when you need help.
Sponsor, therapist, family member, friend, support group, parent coach, church leader.
Can we feel angry and still respond according to our values?
Yes. Feelings are normal, but we can choose our response.
Can your child's behavior trigger feelings from your own childhood?
Yes.
Complete the sentence: "Healthy co-parenting focuses on what is best for the ______."
Child
What happens to our parenting battery when we ignore our own needs?
It slowly becomes depleted, making it harder to respond calmly and intentionally.
What are at least 3 warning signs that tell you you might need support?
Feeling overwhelmed, angry, isolated, exhausted, cravings, and hopelessness.
Name three parenting values you want your child to experience from you.
Love, patience, safety, honesty, kindness, respect, consistency.
What is a coping skill you can use when you notice you are triggered?
Pause + breathe, change your environment, ask for help, box breathing, body movement, sing a song.
What is one healthy boundary in co-parenting?
Speaking respectfully, keeping adult issues away from children, using neutral communication.
Why is it important for parents to recharge before reaching a crisis level?
Prevention is easier than recovery. Children benefit when parents are regulated.
Why is it better to ask for help early instead of waiting until a crisis?
Problems are easier to manage before they become overwhelming.
What is the difference between reacting and responding?
Reacting is automatic; responding is intentional and guided by values.
Name two signs that tell you you are becoming triggered.
Raised voice, racing thoughts, tight chest, wanting to shut down, frustration.
Why is it important not to speak negatively about the other parent in front of children?
Children often love both parents and can feel caught in the middle.