Identifying problems/ Triggers
What is a problem?
Something that prevents you from meeting your goal
When you find yourself in a difficult situation, what can you do?
use your resources or coping strategies
What game did we play to learn about chance?
What is a conflict?
A disagreement or when people do not agree on things
What is feedback?
information on how someone performs a task or completes certain activity.
What is a trigger?
Something that bothers, upsets or makes you feel negatively.
Who is someone we might go to for help?
Parents, Teachers or Friends
What does it mean to be out of our control?
It's not up to us. (other peoples decision or rules)
What is an example of Giving in?
ex:giving into what our fried wants to play because its not a big deal to us
Why is it important to give feedback?
to help us get better at things
different way might help us
help us to do something safely
Tell the group 3 examples of triggers
EX: Noises, Peer comments, Denied/Term access, etc
Name 3 coping strategies
Take a break, Take a breath, Count to 10 etc
Why is it important to keep cool in these situations?
It wont help us get our way
It might make others feel bad
What are 3 things you can disagree on?
Like/dislike
Completing tasks
Best way of doing something
Name 3 WRONG ways of giving feedback
Yelling
Body Language
Tone of Voice
Blaming
Tell the group the problem and solution
John didn't know what to take to school for Show and Tell. He asked his mother for an idea. She suggested he take the ribbon his his dog won at the pet parade.
Problem: John didnt know what to take for Show and Tell
Solution: He asked his mother for an idea
Name the visual we used to scale our feelings
Mood Thermometer
Name 3 examples that are out of our control
Examples:
Snow day
Theater is closed down
Friend is sick and unable to come to our party
etc
What are 2 of 3 ways conflict can be resolved?
Compromise
Give in
apologize
What is an example of positive and corrective feedback?
positive is supportive- Great JOB!
corrective is to change- try doing it this way next time, it may help!
PROBLEM AND SOLUTION
Robert was afraid the flooding river would reach his home. His parents were away, and he was watching with his little sister. He saddled his horse and he and his sister rode to the top of the hill.
Problem: The flooding river might reach roberts house
Solution: Robert took his sister to the top of the hill
Tel the group a
a)situation
b)how I was feeling
c)what I did or do
d)How I felt after
4 part answer
a)
b)
c)
d)
Name 2 Big Deal and 2 Little Deals that are out of our control
Big Deals- someone picking on you/ earthquake
Little Deal-favorite shirt is in the wash
your sibling/friend won the game you were playing
What are 2 steps to consider when apologizing?
Understanding blame
dont blame others for your actions
validate others feeling
make it clear what your sorry for
after sorry let the other person tak
Name 3 FEEDBACK TOOLS from our lesson
Take a breath and move on
Say okay/Thank you
Think of the positive
Ask questions to learn more
Know your Strengths