WORKING IT OUT
True or False? In every conflict, there is a winner and a loser.
False
Name a person in history who worked to stop discrimination non-violently.
Martin Luther King, Jr., Rosa Parks
Jackie Robinson, Susan B. Anthony
Who is responsible for preventing bullying at our school?
Everyone.
True or False? No one else can MAKE you mad.
True.
Name five feeling words.
Sad, glad, mad, angry, afraid, happy, excited, frustrated, joyful, irritated, bored, lonely, furious, etc.
True or False? It is possible to de-escalate a conflict after the other person has called you names.
True
Define prejudice.
Prejudice is an unfair attitude; pre-judging a person without really knowing him or her.
True or False? Bullying is a normal part of growing up?
False.
Name two physical signs of your body’s anger response.
Fast heartbeat, hot skin, clenched fists, shaking hands, etc.
Which communication style works best in most cases?
Assertive
What is a compromise?
When both people win a little and loose.
Name two types of prejudice.
Age, gender, racial/ethnic, class, physical, religious.
Name one good thing a target can do about bullying.
Speak up and tell the bully to stop; be assertive, report the bullying.
Name two good ways to reduce angry feelings.
Relax yourself, distract yourself, talk to yourself.
Name two characteristics of a passive communication style
Little or no eye contact; nervous, apologetic, slumped shoulders; don’t stand up for themselves, etc.
What are the ABC’s of solving conflicts?
Attack the problem, not the person; Brainstorm together; Consider the consequences and choose win-win.
What is a stereotype?
A fixed idea about a whole group of people; e.g., all girls are silly,
All children are trouble, all Asians are smart.
Name two good things a witness can do about bullying.
Support the target, report the bullying; provide safety in numbers.
Name one thing you could say to yourself to reduce your angry feelings.
Calm down; They’re trying to make me mad, but I won’t give them the satisfaction; I can handle this, etc.
Give an example of an I-message
I feel _________ when you _________ because _________. I want _______.
Name three things you can do to escalate a conflict.
Use words like “let’s”, “we,” “our” and “together. Call the other person by name: Relax your body; Use a calm voice; Ask to her the other point of view.
If someone makes a prejudiced remark, what can you do without making it worse?
Speak up, change the subject, or walk away.
Define bullying.
Bullying is repeatedly hurting, threatening, teasing, or frightening
someone else in order to feel powerful.
Name two good things to do or say when you feel angry.
Walk away; use an I-message, Use humor
Name three characteristics of an aggressive communication style.
Loud, rude, sarcastic; in your face; name-calling, blaming, threatening; you-messages, pointing finger, shaking fists; glaring eye contact