What if?
What if I don't like the way the boy looks in the picture?
I should remind myself that the Pnimiyus in what matters, and not the outside look.
Picture of suggested boy
See the picture only right before 1st date, because I don't want to start the relationship from feelings, rather from my mind.
Rebbe
No wrong answer ;)
Ohel
We close the Shidduch by going to the Ohel, or writing to the Rebbe
Emunah
When stressed- just believe in Hashem. He knows what's the best for me.
What if the boy is ready to close, but I'm not sure?
I should take more time to think about it
Keli
We have to have a keli for Brochos. My parents did their part and I'll do mine.
Mashpia
Consult and discuss with your Mashpia any matter that comes up, and any debates you have.
Lobby
Make sure to sit down in a comftorble position in which you will feel free and comftorble
Doubts
The Rebbe said it's healthy to have doubts, it shouldn't stress me.
What if the boy is not perfect?
There is no such thing as perfect, but perfect for me.
Clothes
Dress properly appropriately to the date
Brother
My brother's understand the Bochur world better then me. They could help me understand the Bochur better.
Resutant
We don't eat by dates, since food makes pelole close. So if sitting in a resturant- order only water.
Late hours
Better to end the dates early and not stretch it to long. When it's to late- we both could talk nonsense ;)
What if the boy wants to go on a diffrent style of Shlichus then what I want?
It's time to rethink, and strengthen my values. Shlichus is about doing what the Rebbe wants, so maby it's not as bad and I could go with what the boy wants.
Pen
Write to the Rebbe During this journey and before evry decision
Good freinds
Just like it takes time to appreciate good freinds, it will take time to appreciate the boy. It's not in a instant.
Beach
The date should be places in a appropriate and Tznius way, so we should not date at a beach.
Segulos
There are a lot of Segulos out there for Shidducim. Like giving Tzesakah, teaching Jewish kids etc
I don't know everything abt the boy?
It's OK, I don't have to know every small detail of his life. If it looks good to me now- just leave it up to Hashem.
Phone numbers
Better not to exchange numbers until the end
Mrs. Chitrik
The famous story of of finishing the date before midnight
Bayis Neeman
The purpose of all these dates are to build together our Bayis Neeman
Sharing by the first date
I should share to my chosson what ever I feel comfortable with and is appropriate to to this setting, and not share TMI