DEFINITIONS
A natural response to those situations where we fee threatened, we believe harm with come to us, or we believe that another person has unnecessarily wronged us.
Anger
Anger is a choice.
False.
Anger is a FEELING we choose as a result of our emotion(s).
Name 3 primary emotions which can be the cause of our anger.
Disrespect, embarrassment, shame, regret, sadness, etc.
Your anger "toolbox" which holds all of the anger managements strategies ("tools") which work best for you.
Anger Control Plan
True/False:
Beliefs underlying anger often take the form of "should" and "must."
True
A behavior that is intended to cause harm to another person or damage property. This behavior can include verbal abuse, threats, or violent acts.
Aggression
Physical, Behavioral, Verbal, and Cognitive are the 4 cues to Anger.
False.
Physical, Behavioral, EMOTIONAL, and Cognitive are the 4 cues to anger.
The most common thing one can do when he becomes angry is_____. This gives you time to calm down as you are doing this.
Hint: You can go backwards or you can start from the beginning.
Count to ten
A zero on the Anger Meter indicates you are in a total state of _______.
Calm
Secondary Emotion or Secondary Response
Anger
An attitude that involves disliking others and evaluating them negatively.
Hostility
An ANGER CONTROL PLAN is to try many different strategies and find the anger control techniques that work best for you.
True.
ex: Timeout, Talk to a friend (someone you trust), Conflict Resolution Model, Exercise, Attend 12-step meetings, Explore primary feelings beneath the anger.
The basic message of "My feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are important, and your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are equally important."
Assertiveness
The "D" in the ABCD Method stands for d______ your belief(s) about the event which caused your anger.
Disputing
Anger management strategy which involves leaving a situation that causes the escalation of anger OR putting a stop to the discussion that is provoking it.
Timeout
_______ serve as warning signs that you're angry and that your anger is escalating.
Cues
There are 3 phases where anger leads to aggression.
True.
Buildup, Explosion, and Aftermath
People who are _______ __________ may often feel that others are trying to control them or are on a "power trip."
Passive Agressive
The ABCD Model states that it's not the events that cause our anger, but rather our __________ of the events.
Interpretations
Our circumstances, age, culture, gender, personality, ______, and past all affect how we respond when angry.
Family
As we become angry, we often engage in an internal dialogue, called _____-_____.
Self-Talk
Assertive, Aggressive, Passive, and Passive-Aggressive responses are LEARNED behaviors; they are not innate, unchangeable traits.
True
The basic message of, "Your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are important, but MY feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are unimportant and inconsequential."
Passivity
A second approach to controlling anger. You simply tell yourself through a series of self-commands to stop thinking the thoughts that are making you angry. The goal is to stop your current pattern of angry thoughts before they lead to a escalation of anger and a loss of control. Alternative to the A-B-C-D model.
Thought Stopping.
The interactions we have had with our parents have strongly influenced our ______, _______, _______ as adults.
Behaviors, Feelings, Attitudes