Purpose of Boundaries
Boundaries are made to "_______ me"
protect
Name a source that can influence the way we view ourselves
family, teacher, peer, media
What is a personal boundary?
the limits and rules we set for ourselves within our relationships
Boundaries can be one of three ways: r__, p___, s/h___
rigid, porous, semi-porous/healthy
Give an example of a healthy boundary
asking for needs/wants; self-respect; being assertive; saying no; understanding self-worth; self-discipline
Name something boundaries can help you do
protect myself, stand up for myself, stay firm in my beliefs, communicate my needs
By whom are we exposed to our first experience with boundaries?
Our parents or caregivers
Name 2 types of boundaries we have learned about
personal, material, relational, physical, emotional
What is a rigid boundary?
One that is inflexible and not going to change.
Give an example of an unhealthy boundary
codependency; no saying 'no;' accepting disrespect; falling in love too quick; allowing others to control happiness
How can it be challenging to set a boundary?
How can we prevent allowing other people to influence the way we view ourselves?
Setting boundaries!!!
Give an example of setting a material boundary
"I have given you money and you haven't paid me back, therefore I will not give you any more"
What is a porous boundary? Give an example
A boundary that is not firm-- oversharing personal information, not saying "no," accepting abuse
Name something that can happen if we don't set boundaries
People wont respect us, lost of interest in life, loss of control over life, increased chaos in life, low self-esteem