Touches
This kind of touch makes you feel comfortable, cared for, and safe
Safe touch
Good job!
Who is the boss of your body?
You! Remember, it's YOUR body, what YOU say goes!
Secret or surprise: Not telling about a gift or a party
Surprise
Sarah's neighbor keeps giving her hugs even though she asked them to stop and does not like this. Is this a safe or unsafe touch?
This kind of touch hurts your body, hurts your feelings, and makes you feel confused
Unsafe touch
True or false: You might sometimes feel unsafe even with people you know (friends, family, etc.)
True!
Name three adults in your safety network
Any three safe appropriate adults who will listen if you tell them about something that felt unsafe (one should not be in your family)
Secret or surprise: You feel uncomfortable or stressed keeping it to yourself because it could hurt you or someone else.
Unsafe/bad secret. This could be: keeping a secret about an unsafe or uncomfortable touch, or if someone makes us feel uncomfortable
Jimmy's teachers gives him high fives at the end of the day. Is this a safe or unsafe touch?
This is a safe touch. A high five is safe and Jimmy feels comfortable giving his teacher a high five.
What kind of touch is any touch that you don't like. For example, I may love hugs so hugs are a safe touch to me but Sam may hate hugs so hugs are an _____________ touch to him.
Unwanted
What should you do if you feel any of your early warning signs?
Tell a trusted adult straightaway
Your private body parts are the parts of your body that are covered by your ______ ______ AND your _____
bathing suit/swim suit
AND your mouth
Which should you always tell about even if you are told not to tell anyone?
A secret. Even if the person tells you not to tell, you should always tell a trusted adult in your safety network
Shelby's uncle forces her to sit on his lap. Shelby does not like this and feels uncomfortable. Shelby's uncle tells her to keep this a secret. What should Shelby do?
Shelby should tell a trusted adult, even though her uncle asked her to keep it a secret. If Shelby's uncle tried this again, she should said "no" or "stop" and then get a trusted adult to help.
What is physical abuse and is it a safe touch?
When someone physically hurts you, possibly by hitting you so hard that it leaves a mark on your body. It is not safe and you should tell an adult.
Bonus: Who is an adult you could tell if someone hurts you?
Tell about a time you felt unsafe.
Good job!
What should you do if someone touches your private parts, or asks you to touch their private parts, or shows you pictures of their private parts? (Hint: There are two things you must do)
1) Say in a loud strong voice, "STOP!"
2) Go very quickly to a trusted adult in your safety network and tell them exactly what happened.
Name 5 people you can tell a secret to (Hint: they are in your safety network!)
A trusted Parent, Grandparent, Aunt, Uncle, Principal, Teacher, Therapist, School counselor, etc.
Jack's friend from school gave him a hug at the end of the school year to say goodbye. Is this a safe or unsafe touch?
This is a safe touch.
What is the touching rule?
No one should touch your private body parts.
A parent may help you bathe or clean your body if you need help, and only if you feel comfortable with this.
A doctor may also need to touch your private parts during a check up at the doctors office.
Name some early warning signs that can help you know when a situation is unsafe.
sweaty brow, hair feels like it's standing on end, starts to cry, goosebumps, heart beats fast, feeling shaky, feeling sick in the tummy, sweaty palms, wobbly legs, needs to use the toilet
True or false: People should not come inside your body bubble if you don't want them to.
True! Your body belongs to you.
Give one example of a safe surprise and one example of an unsafe secret.
A friend at school asks to see or touch your private parts. What should you do?
Tell them no and then tell a grownup in your safety network.