Cause of Failure
A person fails, but does not breaks God's Law
What is failure is not a sin?
First step to restoring relationships because of your failure.
What is admit your wrongs, ask for forgiveness?
Preventing Failure, response to triggers
What is identify them and write them down, look for God's way in response them
definition of relapse
what is slipping back into old patterns?
List of 2 negative and 2 positive consequences of failure
Applicable
God emotion shown when you fail
What is God's response your failure?
Response when asking for forgiveness
repentance, the act of turning away, sincere regret?
Best way to ask for forgiveness (3 components)
What is I was wrong, say what you did wrong, then ask for forgiveness?
Not considered relapse
what is if real recover did not occur?
David failed to protect himself from failure
What is he went to a place he shouldn't have gone, and continued in deceitful living instead of being honest when he had the change?
3 Examples of failures that are not a sin
what is
losing a game
failing a test
failing to reach a goal
mistakes
Definition of Recovery
What is the steps one take to recover from their failure. Recovery also includes learning what steps to take so you don't commit the same failure again.
Best way to ask for forgiveness (3 components)
What is I was wrong, say what you did wrong, then ask for sincere forgiveness?
Components of a relapse prevention plan
Zacchaeus and his response when he saw Jesus
who was a corrupt tax collector who saw Jesus from a sycamore tree and turned away from his wrong patterns of living. He gave away 1/2 of his goods to the poor, pay back 4 times as much as he had taken?
Iceberg Analogy, the progression of problems
What is surface problems, surface causes, root problems, then root causes?
4 of the 9 steps in what you should do when you fail
What is
I should admit I was wrong
I should ask God to forgive me
I must forgive myself
I must make a decision to stop sinning
Ask forgiveness of those who were offended
find the cause of the failure
look for God's way out of the failure
let others tell me about my problems
Keep Growing
An essential part of growth, one or more person's in your life whom you give permission to be totally honesty with you about what they see in your life.
Meeting criteria
What is accountability?
What is on a regular basis with specific questions and answers be exchanged
The first step to relapse
What is when a person reactivates patterns of denial, isolation, elevated stress, and impaired judgment?
Mathew 6:14-15
What is
If you forgive those who sin against you, you heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others your father will not forgive you sins."
Three root problems that are the root of all our problems
What are bitterness, materialistic value, and immorality?
Three common ways people respond to failure
what is
get rid of only the surface problems
suppress it
don't hind anything
Run away from the problem
ignore the problem
Make excuse and justify the problem
Respond to the failure God's way
Three major areas of growth in growing through a failure.
What is overcoming the problem, living healthy lifestyle, take steps to prevent that failure again?
4 of the seven ways why recovery quickly turns into relapse
what is
magical thinking
environmental abstinence vs. real change
old friends
old problem solving strategies
failure to use God's power
compartmentalizing my life
Psalm 32:8-9
"The Lord says, I will guide yo along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you. Do not be like a senseless horse or mike that needs a but and bridle to keep it under control."