Boundary 101
This type of boundary protects your personal space and body
What is a physcial boundary
This is a complete, one-word you can use when you do not want to do something
What is "No"?
A friend expects you to answer their calls immediately but routinely ignores you when you need support. What relationship issue might this pattern suggest?
What is a lack of reciprocity or an unequal relationship dynamic/ one-sided relationship? (double standard)
What force keeps the planets in orbit around the Sun?
What is Gravity?
A loved one repeatedly asks you to lie to their employer or family to cover up consequences related to their substance use. You want to support them without making things worse. What is a healthy response?
What is refusing to lie or cover up the behavior while offering appropriate support for recovery and accountability?
Setting limits on your time, energy, and emotional capacity involves this type of boundary
What is an Emotional Boundary
A person refuses an invitation and gives no explanation. The other person says the refusal is disrespectful because a proper answer requires a detailed reason. Is the person who declined automatically being disrespectful, and why or why not?
No. A person can decline without giving a detailed explanation; tone and context matter, but an explanation is not always owed.
Someone repeatedly crosses a boundary, apologizes afterward, and promises it will never happen again, but the same behavior continues. What matters more when evaluating whether the relationship is improving?
What is consistent behavioral change over time, not apologies alone?
Which Board game features the locations such as Boardwalk and Park Place?
What is Monopoly?
When a family member asks for details your aren't ready to share, you can set this kind of information limit
What is a privacy boundary?
This is the main reason boundaries feel uncomfortable or scary at first
What is fear of rejection, guilt, or conflict
This common habit involves saying yes to things that you hate out of fear of disappointing someone
What is people-pleasing?
In early recovery, hanging out with old friends who reinforce bad habits is a red flag for this boundary failure
What is relapse prevention/compromising your safety?
What is the Japanese word for the green tea powder commonly used in drinks and desserts?
What is Matcha?
This feeling often shows up right after you set a healthy boundary, but it does not mean you did something wrong
What is guilt?
True or false: Setting a boundary is an attempt to control another person's behavior?
What is False (boundaries control your environment and response, not others)
This phrase lets you decline a request while leaving the door open for later (e.g I can't today, but maybe)
What is delayed refusal?
A loved one says they are worried about your recovery and asks you not to spend time with a particular person because that person frequently uses substances around you. How can you distinguish a reasonable concern from controlling behavior?
What is examining the evidence, intent, communication, respect for autonomy, and whether the request is connected to a genuine safety concern?
What is the only continent where giraffes live naturally in the wild?
What is Africa?
This skill involves pausing before reacting when someone triggers your emotions
What is taking a timeout/break/pausing/emotional regulation
This type of boundary is put in place to protect one's personal belongings
What is a property boundary
Your close friend is having a crisis and asks you to cancel an important appointment that supports your recovery. You feel guilty saying no. Describe a response that shows compassion without abandoning your own needs.
“I care about you, but I need to keep my appointment. Can we contact another support person or talk afterward?”
A partner violates your privacy, blames you for “making them do it,” apologizes when you threaten to leave, and temporarily changes before repeating the behavior. Identify two concerning patterns in this situation.
What are blame-shifting and a repeated cycle of boundary violations followed by temporary change?
Which fruit is known as the "king of fruits" in Southeast Asia and is famous for its strong smell?
What is Durian?
A person experiences a lapse, feels ashamed, and thinks, “I already ruined everything, so there is no point trying anymore.” What thinking pattern is this, and what recovery-oriented response could help?
What is all-or-nothing thinking?