Definitions
This type of boundary is strict and inflexible.
Rigid.
Someone speaks over you while you are in the middle of saying something. You respond by:
A. Raising your voice and continuing what you were saying.
B. Explain that you were not finished speaking and ask to finish your sentence.
C. Shut down and abandon what you were saying.
B. Explain that you were not finished speaking and ask to finish your sentence.
Your friend got tickets to the Taylor Swift concert and didn't invite you even though you are a major Swiftie. In response you:
A. End the friendship. This is unforgiveable.
B. Explain that you were hurt that they didn't think to invite you.
C. Pretend that you're happy for them but secretly pray that it rains the entire concert.
A. End the friendship. This is unforgiveable.
Someone with collapsed boundaries is likely to
A. Tolerate more abuse.
B. Overshare personal information.
C. Both A and B
C. Both A and B
The amount of physical space people like to have around them and how much physical contact they like to have.
Personal Space.
True or False: Healthy boundaries make it easier to establish healthy relationships with others.
True.
True
Your friend is running very late to meet you for lunch, and you are feeling frustrated. You decide to:
A. Wait for them to arrive, but tell them it does bother you when they are late.
B. Leave.
C. Tell them it is totally okay, and suppress your feelings.
C. Tell them it is totally okay, and suppress your feelings.
Invisible lines you draw around yourself to determine what behavior you find acceptable or unacceptable.
Boundaries.
You friend is upset and you want to give them a hug, but you know they are uncomfortable with physical touch, so you
A. Hug them anyway and explain it's just because you love them.
B. Ask them if you can give them a hug.
C. Respect their space and let them know you're here for them.
C. Respect their space and let them know you're here for them.
Someone with rigid boundaries may keep others at a __________.
Distance.
Someone with collapsed boundaries likely has:
A. Tried to maintain a healthy distance from toxic family members
B. Been offended when someone does not want their advice
C. Come off detached in romantic relationships
B. Been offended when someone does not want their advice
Collapsed Boundaries.
Healthy boundaries sound like:
A. I don't think you should do it that way.
B. You need to respect my personal boundaries and stop calling me.
C. I am uncomfortable with the way you are speaking to me right now.
C. I am uncomfortable with this conversation, can we change the subject?
Someone with rigid boundaries might:
A. Ignore phone calls and texts from family and friends.
B. Find it difficult to share personal information with someone they just met.
C. Both A & B
A. Ignore phone calls and texts from family and friends.
True or False: If my boundaries are collapsed, it will likely be harder to take advantage of me.
False.
Material, Emotional, Intellectual, Physical, Time can be...
Types of boundaries.
When a family member has repeatedly not respected your established boundaries, it is appropriate to
A. Block them and cut off contact.
B. Distance yourself and explain that since they cannot respect your boundaries, you need to limit contact.
C. Continue repeating your boundaries and hope that they will learn to respect them.
B. Distance yourself and explain that since they cannot respect your boundaries, you need to limit contact.
Someone has betrayed your trust and told everyone that you are a secret Swiftie. Moving forward you:
A. Will never tell anyone anything ever again.
B. Explain to this person that this is not something you wanted shared.
C. Embrace your inner Swiftie.
A. Will never tell anyone anything ever again.
Answers may vary. (ex. dependent on the opinions of others, accepting of abuse, difficulty saying no, overshares, overinvolved, etc.)