Work boundaries
What is a simple, effortless thing you can do everyday to help prevent work from taking over your personal time?
Stop checking emails after a certain time in the day.
Note: Make sure to tell this boundary to your boss and coworkers.
Who is responsible for one’s feelings?
Every person is responsible for their own feelings.
If you let other people borrow your belongings, what else should you do?
Set rules concerning how that person can use it.
In order to make someone follow a boundary of yours, just setting that boundary with them is not enough. What else should you do?
Remind them of your boundary whenever they violate it.
What is one boundary you must always establish before you begin working a job you've been hired for?
When can your boss and coworkers communicate with you outside working hours.
Example: you won't answer calls/emails past 8 PM, except emergencies.
If we believe we are responsible for someone’s else’s painful feelings, how would this affect how we listen to others?
You don't listen fully and compassionately because you’re upset too.
What is something you can do with your money that helps you BOTH prioritize your financial goals AND helps you decide whether to lend/give money to loved ones or not?
A budget.
Before you change a boundary you already made with someone, what should you do first?
Check to see how much the current boundary positively affects you.
What to do if a coworker keeps taking advantage of your kindness by violating your boundaries, OTHER THAN stating the boundary again?
Tell them exactly what you will do if boundaries are violated again.
Example: you'll talk with your manager to figure out a solution
You set a rule with someone concerning your belongings, and that person resents that rule. Does that say anything about your boundary?
Nothing.
Note: Their reaction reflects their own emotional struggle, not your boundary.
Before lending your family and friends any money, what should you have done first?
Achieve your financial goals.
Note: If you don't prioritize your goals, no one else will.
OTHER THAN people not respecting boundaries, what is a common reason why someone changes boundaries they already set?
Priorities in life change.
What is the magic word that will help you with any type of boundary, but is sometimes hard to say?
No.
A family member keeps crossing a boundary you set with them. You then meet them again at a family gathering, and they cross your boundary again. What should you do?
Gracefully exit the family gathering.
You will decide that you will gift money to family, friends, and loved ones if they need it. How will you decide who will get the money?
Create a priority list of people.
To speak in a way that lets others know that you’re responsible for your own feelings:
What is one word you should try to avoid saying?
You.
NOTE: Say “I” instead.
Say this: “I feel upset.” Don’t say: “YOU upset me.”
Your boss violated your boundaries by giving you an excessive workload, which made you work late hours. What is the first thing you should do immediately?
Remind your boss calmly, in a private setting, of your boundaries.
A friend or family member is in a desperate situation, and they’re asking you for money because they don’t see any way out. However, your finances are bad too.
What are two things you should do?
- Don’t give them money.
- Offer non-financial help.
If you loan money to family, friends, and loved ones; should you expect them to eventually give the money back to you?
No. In reality, this doesn't often happen.
NOTE: That’s why IF you give money to people, treat it like a gift. Not a loan.