No Way, Jose
Saying this creates balance by protecting your mental and emotional resources
NO !
Healthy, unhealthy, or abusive?
Your partner demands control of your social media account and access to all of your passwords
Abusive
Rather than responding, "You are so rude, you gotta stop.", how should you respond?
"I don't appreciate when you talk to me in that tone. If you continue to, I will leave this conversation."
Can you take back consent?
Yes!
What are the different types of boundaries?
What are physical, sexual, emotional, material, intellectual (spiritual), time, and virtual?
Your friend asks for your instagram password. How would you say no?
"No, I don't feel comfortable with sharing my passwords with others."
When someone does this, they make you feel bad for setting boundaries
Guilt-tripping
When in a conflict with a partner, is it better to argue it out while in the moment or to separate and come back after you cool off?
Separate and take a break!
People cannot consent when they are/ consent is not valid if:
- Under the influence
- Unconscious
- Not of the age to legally consent
- Are coerced
- Are misled/ tricked
- when there is an unequal power dynamic
Jessica and Andrea made plans to leave school for lunch to get Mcdonalds. Andrea wanted to bring the food back to school so they wouldn't be late. Jessica insisted on eating there. Jessica and Andrea ended up being late for their classes and Andrea received a tardy.
What boundary did Jessica cross?
Time
Script: How do you respectfully respond to a family member asking for a big favor when you're overwhelmed
Example: I'd love to help, but I have too much on my plate right now. I'll have a few minutes later today.
This is a warning sign of a toxic friendship - where they twist situations to make you feel responsible for their problems
Manipulation
(will also accept gaslighting)
How do you show that you are reflective listening?
- Not focus on just getting your point across rather you should focus on listening to your partner
- Before responding, restate the points they just made in your own words
Jenna invited three of her friends over for a slumber party while her parents were away for the weekend. McKenna invited a bunch of people from their grade and told Jenna that they were going to throw a party and she would bring alcohol. Jenna said she was uncomfortable with that, but McKenna said everyone will think she would be uncool if she cancels. Jenna went silent and McKenna had the party at Jenna's house. Did Jenna give consent?
No, no she did not.
This type of boundary is about safeguarding your feelings and mental health
Emotional
This can be a last step when someone is violating your boundaries
Remove yourself/ walk away
When someone does this, they use anger and blame or threats to force you into agreeing
Intimidation
What is a communication skill that allows you to take responsibility for your own reactions without blaming or attacking the other person?
"I" statements
You ask your peer if you can hug them. They say yes but lean away from you and look really uncomfortable. Is that consent?
No
What boundary is being crossed when someone tells you that something you believe is true, is wrong?
(Example: A flat-earther telling you that the Earth is not round and you are wrong for believing that it is. )
Intellectual
This is a way of responding when you push back clearly and confidently while maintaining respect
Assertiveness
Healthy, unhealthy, or abusive?
Your partner tells you you don't really love them because you want to go the movies with a friend instead of them
Unhealthy
"What I'm hearing you say is ________" is an example of what kind of communication skill?
Reflective listening
Consent is like F.R.I.E.S, what does each letter stand for?
Freely given
Reversible
Informed
Enthusiastic
Specific
What boundary is crossed if someone steals your phone and takes over your Instagram and starts posting a bunch of cat memes (you're a dog person)?
Material
Digital