Definitions
A limit or rule we set for ourselves in relationships
True or false: Everyone has the same personal boundaries?
False.
Give an example of a time where you might have to be too close to someone?
Waiting in line at the store, at a concert, at a sport game, working as a group, etc
Why do we have boundaries?
Boundaries are created to set limits on what you will and won't accept.
What is a "physical boundary"?
When you create a limit of your personal space; how/when someone can touch you or be in your space or bubble
DOUBLE JEOPARDY: True or false: This is crossing a boundary:
You're watching a classmate play a game on the computer. You think it's cool and are excited for them. You stand directly behind them so you can see the screen.
True: This is crossing a boundary and not respecting personal space.
DOUBLE JEOPARDY: Give two examples of crossing a physical boundary?
Getting too close to someone, touching someone, putting something in someones face, etc.
DOUBLE JEOPARDY: Give 2 reasons why its good to know and respect someone's boundaries?
So that we are aware of what they are comfortable with, so we gain trust, so they feel safe, etc.
What are "emotional boundaries"?
Limits on when/what someone wants to share (or not share) regarding personal information, feelings, thoughts, etc.
True or false: This is crossing a boundary.
Your friend is having a hard time at home. They vent to you about their frustrations and feelings. You tell another friend about what this friend vented to you.
True
DOUBLE JEOPARDY: Give two examples of how emotional boundaries are crossed?
Blaming others, Sharing someone else's information, pressuring someone to share something, etc
What could be a consequence of not respecting someone's boundaries?
People get angry, Can hurt friendships/relationships, Mental health issues, if severe enough then jail time
What is self-control?
The ability to control those urges/feelings
True or false: Parents can cross our boundaries?
True.
Give two reasons why personal space is important?
1. If were too close to someone we can; get sick (if they sneeze, cough, etc)
2. To be safe
3. To make ourselves and others feel comfortable
How might someone set a healthy boundary with a friend?
May not share certain parts of their lives, declining an invite if it doesn't align with their needs/wants, etc
DOUBLE JEOPARDY: What is "accountability"?
Taking responsibility for our actions
True or false: The size of your personal space bubble will grow/shrink with different people?
True. You would allow someone your comfortable with (parent, friend) closer in your bubble, and someone unfamiliar (cashier, stranger) would be more distant in your bubble
DOUBLE JEOPARDY: How can self-control help us respect others boundaries?
It helps us remain aware of others personal space, limitations, and remain in control of how we respect their space
Give an example of how a teacher/staff might set a healthy boundary with a student?
Keeping personal life separate/not telling too much about private life, teacher may tell student what they are comfortable and not comfortable with hearing in the classroom, not connecting on social media, etc.