What's your type?
If you avoid getting close to people and don't believe in any second chances you may have a tendency to have this type of boundary in place
What are rigid boundaries?
If you added a student on Instagram you would be in violation of the social media subsection of this book of boundaries, provided to you when you first started working here
What is the Garage employee handbook?
Verbal abuse (insulting, name calling, etc.)
Threats (using fear to create compliance)
Blame or shame (making excuses for your behavior or their behavior)
If you engaged in the above behaviors you would most likely also be engaging in this
What is crossing boundaries?
This healthy behavior can be described as "communicating to another person a limit regarding what you will or will not accept regarding their words or actions"
What is setting, communicating, or defining a boundary
Without healthy boundaries in place you may find yourself in in a ____________ relationship - wherein you consistently deny your own needs to meet the other persons.
also known as "relationship addiction"
What is co-dependent?
A willingness to be flexible while also being able to balance ones own needs; being able to say no and being able to accept when told no
What are healthy boundaries?
You've just given a student 8 reasons to respect the no swearing policy of the Garage, including personal and professional explanations of ways that swearing could cause harm.
What is the term for this mistake?
Overexplaining
*lets discuss how overexplaining can undermine healthy boundaries and lead to a power struggle
If you found yourself reaching for an item in someone's hand and they pulled back slightly you could say they've just set a boundary with you without words, but instead by using this
What is body language or non verbal communication?
*Lets discuss how some boundaries are implied, some are directly communicated, and some are indirectly communicated
Boundary setting is a chain behavior, aka a multi-step process - this is the first step in that chain
What is self reflection or self awareness?
Expecting people to understand and respect your boundaries at work will prove to be a challenge if you’re not comfortable with _____________
What is direct communication?
What is people pleasing?
Failing to respect the teens and your peers boundaries can (and likely will) lead to this consequence
*example - failing to respect a boundary around a deadname or topic of conversation
What are disciplinary actions up to and including termination?
These are the boundaries we all have that are rooted in our core values- crossing these will likely result in extreme discomfort for everyone
What are non-negotiable boundaries?
This term refers to "a style of communication that focuses on the feelings or beliefs of the speaker rather than thoughts and characteristics that the speaker attributes to the listener"
Without ________ in our boundaries we run the risk of having unreasonably rigid boundaries.
Significant mental or physical distress consistently occurring before telling someone "No" could be anxiety, but it could also be a sign that you may have ______ boundaries with yourself and others
What is weak or porous?
"I don't work on my birthday"
Hey boss, I can't take on that task, my plate is too full right now"
"How about I show you this time, then next time you won't need my help so I'll be able to focus on my own work"
What are professional and/or work place boundaries?
"I can't because its too late in the evening"
"I can only stay for an hour"
"I can only help for 5, I have a meeting to prep for"
If you ignored any of the above you would be disregarding this type of boundary
What are time boundaries?
What are intentions?
______________ is most commonly defined as "anything you do to promote personal wellness"
What is self care
*Lets discuss the link between healthy boundaries and self care together
What is a work in progress?
There is a difference between workplace boundaries with your boss and this-
The act of willfully disobeying an order of ones superior
What is insubordination?
Therapeutically speaking- a boundary crossing is a deviation that is harmless and non-exploitative.
In contrast, these are always unethical and likely illegal
Defined as: an alteration or shift in the limits of a professional relationship creating a relationship that may not be based on the needs of the client, or is ambiguous or harmful.
What is give yourself permission?
Having functional and supportive boundaries will happen as long as you keep practicing and remain open to __________ by remembering that slight pain is soon forgotten!
What is discomfort?