Healthy v. Toxic Friendships
True or False:
A good friend gets jealous of your accomplishments and always tries to put you down
False
True or False:
Conversations with an acquaintance or friend should be one sided
No, the conversation should be reciprocal. We should also be sharing about ourselves, our opinions, and likes/ interests
You told your friend in private you like a girl in your class and now he is telling everyone at school you like this girl. How do you solve this conflict?
Calmly tell your friend that was a secret and that you feel hurt he broke your trust
True or false:
Everyone seeks the same qualities in a friend
False
Can an acquaintance become a close friend?
Yes
This type of friend makes us feel insecure and bad about ourselves. We don't always know if we can trust this friend.
Toxic
Why is it important to ask someone questions about themselves?
* That person is more likely to like you and be open to a friendship if you show interest in them
* Get to know that person better
* Better idea if that person could possibly be a friend
* See if you have similar interests and likes
* People appreciate when someone is interested about them and wants to get to know them
What is the best zone to handle a conflict with a friend?
Hint: In this zone we are able to think more rationally and have greater perspective around our friends' feelings/ opinions
Green
Similar interests and things in common are usually qualities people look for in a _______
Friend
Name this relationship:
This is a classmate who you say hi to everyday and sometimes have a conversation with in class but you never hang out with this person during recess or outside of school
Acquaintance
This person is someone who you can trust to keep your deepest secrets and someone you often go to when you're feeling upset or sad about something. This person validates your feelings and comforts you when you're feeling down.
Healthy friend
After you have had a few conversations with a peer in class who you enjoy talking to, what is the next step to progressing the relationship?
* Exchange numbers (Or gamertags, social media handles)
* Make plans/ Invite them to hang out
* Find an opportunity to meet up with them
When we do this we try to see things from our friends point of view and understand our friends feelings?
Perspective taking
True or False:
The qualities we seek in a friend often determines how happy we are in the friendship and how much we value the friendship
True
______ are people we are really close to and hang out with all the time during recess and outside of school. We often have similar interests/ likes as this person and enjoy their company
This type of friend always dominates the conversation and never asks how you're doing. This person always forces us to do what they want to do and never asks our opinion or what we want to do.
Toxic friend
Name one positive way you can initiate or join a conversation with someone
* Talk about a common interest/ topic
* Ask general questions about the other person
* Share something interesting about yourself
* Ask the other person how they're doing
* Try to get to know other person
You and Bobby have been close friends for two years and always hang out together. Lately, Bobby has been spending more time with the new boy in school, Rick, and hasn't been hanging out with you as much. How might you handle this situation?
* Get to know Rick too and see if he could potentially be a good friend
* Talk with Bobby and tell him that you feel like you both haven't been hanging out as much and that you miss hanging out with him.
Name two qualities you don't seek in a friend
*Can name two qualities
(Not real right answer, open to your preference)
Can a close friend be a toxic friend?
Yes
Name two qualities of a healthy friendship
* Supportive of each other (compliments each other)
* Enjoy spending time with each other
* Open to other's ideas
* Resolve conflicts in a healthy way
* Listens to each other
* Similar interests but also respects each other's differences/opinions
* Reciprocal conversations and communication
* Equal commitment to the friendship
Trying to get to know someone by asking questions, remembering information about that person, thinking of/ planning activities to do together, and putting in effort to spend time with that person are all good friendship ______
Skills - or -
Qualities
Name three healthy strategies to solving a conflict with a friend
* Take a step away to calm yourself first
* Analyze the situation/ problem
*Try see things from friends perspective
*Approach friend with concern when calm and ready
* Listen to friends voice/ opinion
* State your opinion/ concern and express how you feel in a calm way
* Look to find solutions/ resolution (conflict resolution)
Name three qualities you seek in a friend
*Can name three qualities
(Not real right answer, open to your preference)
You always ask this person to hang out but they always seem to come up with excuses not to and they never invite you or ask you to hang out with them. This is most likely ____________
Not really a friend or a Toxic friend