Coping Skills
Name one way that you cope with your stress or overwhelming feelings.
Watching TV shows, drawing, listening to music, Clear picture skills, breathing techniques, talking to family, spending some time alone, etc. (answers will vary)
Name the 3 types of communication styles we have learned?
Assertive, aggressive, passive
What is the hardest part about making new friends?
Answers will vary
Role Play: Pretend to invite a friend to come over and watch TV together.
"Hey _____! would you like to come over and watch TV with me?"
Can you remember the names of the 6 Clear Picture Skills?
1. Notice my breath
2. Check my surroundings
3. Do a body check
4. Notice my thoughts
5. Notice my urges
6. Label and Rate My Feelings
Describe aggressive communication?
Aggressive communication is expressing your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs in a way that violates the rights of others. (yelling, screaming, hitting, being mean)
When talking with a new friend, should you only talk about things that interest you?
NO - You should also ask about their interests. We should always take turns in conversations.
Role Play: Asking for help finding toothpaste at the store.
Hello worker! Could you please direct me toward the section of the store where toothpaste is sold?
What are 3 unhealthy or "negative" coping skills people might use?
Yelling, hitting yourself, physically hurting others, substance use, being mean to other people, bottling up our feelings, eating junk food, etc. (answers will vary)
Describe assertive communication?
Assertive communication involves communicating your thoughts, feelings and beliefs in an honest way without violating the rights of others. It is the balanced middle ground between violating other people’s rights when being aggressive, and violating our own rights when being passive.
Give me 3 examples of compliments you could give someone that DO NOT deal with physical appearance/clothing:
"Smart", "Kind", "Funny", "Talented", "Creative", etc.
Role Play: Introducing yourself to a new classroom of students
"Hello! My name is Bryce and it is nice to meet everyone!"
Is creating artwork considered a coping skill?
YES!!! Art can be used as a way to express your emotions/feelings.
Describe passive communication?
Passive communication is not expressing your honest feelings, thoughts or beliefs, allowing others to violate your rights, or violating your own rights in the way you communicate with others
Can you be friends with someone who has different interests than you?
YES - You can be friends with anyone you would like to be!
Role Play: Asking someone 3 questions to get to know them?
Examples: Name? Age? Where they live? Do they work? Do they go to school? Interests? Etc. (answers will vary)
Describe a situation in which you felt overwhelmed, and needed to use a coping skill, being sure to name which coping skill(s) you used.
*Answers will vary*
Tell me an assertive response to the following situation: Your brother eats all of your dinner.
"It hurt my feelings that you ate my dinner, and I want you to try to remember ask me next time before taking something from me." (answers will vary)
What is a goal that you have with regard to friendships?
"I would like to make a friend by the end of next year", "I want to introduce myself to one new person when I start school", etc.
Why do you think social skills are important?
They help make friends, who can impact our positive well-being. Benefits of social support include improved physical health, greater resilience to stress, a feeling of security, and more.