Working It Out
T or F? In every conflict, there is a winner and a loser.
False
Name a person in history who worked to stop discrimination non-violently.
Martin Luther King Jr., Rosa Parks, Jackie Robinson, Susan B. Anthony
Who is responsible for preventing bullying at our school?
Everyone
T or F? No one else can MAKE you mad.
True
Name 5 feeling words.
Sad, glad, mad, angry, afraid, happy, excited, frustrated, joyful, irritated, bored, lonely, furious, etc.
T or F? It is possible to de-escalate a conflict after the other person has called you names.
True
Define prejudice.
Prejudice is an unfair attitude; pre-judging a person without really knowing him or her.
T or F? Bullying is a normal part of growing up?
False
Name 2 physical signs of your body's anger response.
Fast heartbeat, hot skin, clenched fists, shaking hands, etc
Which communication style works best in most cases?
Assertive
What is compromise?
When both people win a little and lose a little.
Name 2 types of prejudice.
Age, gender, racial/ethnic, class physical, religious
Name 1 good thing a target can do about bullying.
Speak up and tell the bully to stop; be assertive, report the bullying.
Name 2 good ways to reduce angry feelings.
Relax yourself, distract yourself, talk to yourself
Name 2 characteristics of passive communication style
Little or no eye contact; nervous, apologetic, slumped shoulders; don't stand up for themselves, etc.
What are the ABC's of solving conflicts?
Attack the problem, not the person; Brainstorm together; Consider the consequences and choose win-win.
What is a stereotype?
A fixed ides about a whole group of people; ex: all children are trouble.
Name 2 good things a witness can do about bullying.
Support the target, report the bullying; provide safety in numbers.
Name 1 thing you could say to yourself to reduce your angry feelings.
Calm down; They're trying to make me mad, but I won't give them the satisfaction; I can handle this, etc
Give an example of an I-message
I feel _______ when you ______ because ______
Name 3 things you can do to de-escalate a conflict.
Use words like "let's," "we," "our" and "together." Call the other person by name: Relax your body; Use a calming voice; Ask for their point of view.
If someone makes a prejudice remark, what can you do without making it worse?
Speak up, change the subject or walk away
Define bullying
Bullying is repeatedly hurting, threatening, teasing, or frightening someone in order to feel powerful
Name 2 good things to do or say when you feel angry.
Walk away; use an I-statement, use humor
Name 3 characteristics of an aggressive communication style.
Loud, rude, sarcastic; in your face; name-calling, blaming, threatening; you-messages, pointing finger, shaking fists; glaring eye contact