Boundaries
Type of boundary
Emotional, Intellectual, Physical, Sexual, Material or Time
Isolation, Ambiguous, Emotionally Distant, Ambivalence
Dismissive-Avoidant
This is all your fault! You never do anything right!
Criticism
This person is in control
You
This is respected in healthy relationships
Boundaries
Healthy Boundary
Confident, Reciprocal, Nonreactive, Resilient
Secure Attachment
You are just like your father!
Contempt
Unicorns
Are made of glitter & rainbows
You will not feel this in a healthy relationship
Unsafe, pressured, disrespected, abused
Difficulty saying “no“ to others
Porous Boundary
Internal conflict, unpredictable, anxious, dependency but avoids intimacy
Fearful-Avoidant
I need a break, let’s talk about this tomorrow after lunch.
Appropriate Stonewalling/Grounding/Healthy communication
This soothes the soul
Chocolate or Bubble Baths
This can often feel like smothering in unhealthy relationships
Not providing personal space and time
Unlikely to ask for help.
Rigid Boundary
What type of study was conducted to gain evidence that supports the 4 basic attachment styles?
Children were in a room with toys and a caregiver that was not their guardian/parent, the guardian/parent left the room and the child’s behavior was observed and recorded.
You should be the one to talk, this isn’t just my fault!
Defensiveness
You’re Right!
Boundary Setting or wants and needs
Acronym created by Brene Brown for building self trust and trusting others
BRAVING
Overly invested & involved, lack of nurturance, turbulent, fantasy bond
Preoccupied-Anxious
Stonewalling
Silent Treatment, Avoidance, Turning away
You set these
Boundaries & Expectations
Wants & Needs
A healthy response to “no”
Respect, Acceptance