Kubler Ross
What's the use of going on another day? It all seems so pointless!
Depression
In the 1900's + 2000's , most marry for this reason:
Love
Middlescence - describes the following
Middle age similar to adolescence
Men in their 20s think they have chosen the:
Perfect Course for Life
This percentage of marriages end in divorce
50%
There is no way this is happening! I need a second opinion!!!
Denial
Most grooms will marry a woman this much younger than them..
2-5 years
In your mid 40s this dream may end
Professional athlete, Movie Star, Rock Star, etc.
Women are more concerned with developing this in their 20s than men are:
Close friendships
Generally speaking, they are given custody
Women
Please let me celebrate my 50th Anniversary and hold my grandchildren!!!!
Bargaining
In 2024 - this percentage of marriages are interracial
15%
A critical life event of your early 40s
Parents death
Change at work
Slower than children
Young adulthood spans this age bracket
20-40
This is one reason that divorces have become more common in recent years
" No fault" divorce laws
Unrealistic expectations of marriage
Economic independence of women
I have lived a good life, I am ready to go now!!!
Acceptance
2 major goals of marriage
Intimacy and Companionship
Gail Sheehy described this as "Midlife Mastery"
You are at the height of your creative powers
For men a major goal of development
Independence
Children of divorced parents generally perform ( in school)
lower grades in school - do not perform well in school
Why is this happening to me ? Life is so unfair!!!!
Anger
Normal marrying age for a woman
21-25
According to Erikson, this is generativity:
the ability to create, originate and produce.
In their early 20s, most adults feel that they must do this:
Live up to parent's expectations
Parents getting divorced should never do this in front of their children
Criticize - speak badly of each other in front of children..