Social Cognition
When your expectations about a situation or person makes that expectation seem to come to fruition
What are self-fulfilling prophecies?
Children 37%, chores 25%, communication 22%, leisure 20%, work 19%, money 19%, habits 17%, relatives 11%, commitment 9%, intimacy 8%, friends 8%, and personality 7%.
What are the percentages of conflict topics in heterosexual married couples (Papp, et al. 2009)
Occurs when either the perpetrator of bad behavior or outside observers justify what happened by putting the responsibility on the target of that behavior.
What is victim blaming?
This type of therapy places emphasizes how implicit or unconscious thoughts, fears, and expectations formed early in childhood affect our relationship dynamics later.
What is Psychodynamic therapy?
Emotional, instrumental, informational, and appraisal.
What are the four types of support?
Sculpting one another through interactions such as behavioral and perceptual affirmations, leads to your partner's ideal self, and your own.
What is Michelangelo Phenomenon?
The sharing of personal, private information within friendships and relationships.
What is self-disclosure?
False beliefs about sexual assault and rape, based on sexism, for example: "She asked for it", "It wasn't really rape", "He didn't mean to", "she lied".
What are rape myths?
Emphasizes actual, observable behaviors between couple members instead of focusing on abstract thoughts or perceptions.
What is behavioral therapy?
When someone provides feedback to you regarding how well you are progressing toward a set goal.
What is appraisal support?
These individuals can fit into any social situation; they're more likely to flirt and do things for social approval. Their attachment style tends to be avoidant because they make surface-level connections with others and base their self-worth on other's perceptions of themselves.
What are the characteristics of high self-monitors?
Shared intimacy requires communication between two people each step along the way can be affected by a person's motives goals and fears, it’s more of a dynamic process.
What is the intimacy process model (Reis and Shaver 1998)?
Intimate terrorism (Johnson 1995, 2007), where physical violence occurs that may require police or medical intervention. Includes psychological, emotional, and sexual violence. Situational violence (Johnson, 1995, 2007) is where couples argue aggressively, but neither attempts to take general control, and incidents are usually minor, but still unhealthy.
What are two types of violence that occur within relationships?
This kind of therapy helps clients understand their moods and reactions to each other, including, anxiety, anger, love, etc. It aims to identify dysfunctional emotional reactions and instead build dynamics that elicit caring responses.
What is emotionally focused therapy?
The idea that we manage our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in order to reach goals we've set for ourselves, is another term for self-control.
What is self-regulation theory (Baumeister, 2000)?
The unconscious mental framework that influences how individuals perceive and interpret information about relationships. They shape expectations and behaviors without conscious awareness, affecting how one understands and engages in intimate connections.
What is implicit schema?
In this model there are five basic conflict tactics or approaches, they differ by two dimensions: assertive/unassertive and uncooperative/cooperative. The five possible outcomes are competing, collaborating, avoiding, accommodating, and compromising.
What is the Thomas Kilmann Conflict model (1976)?
When our thoughts and actions don't match our values and self concept.
What is cognitive dissonance (Festinger and Carlsmith, 1959)?
This kind of therapy approaches conflict between couples as a function of their individual patterns and unspoken beliefs, due to larger groups such as their entire family or even their cultural and social environment.
What is systems therapy?
A communication behavior that's characterized by shutting down, withdrawing, and emotionally disengaging from a conversation.
What is stonewalling?
39 milliseconds, 100 milliseconds
How long does it take to determine if someone is threatening or not based on first impressions? How long does it take to make an impression of someone based on whether they are trustworthy, attractive, likable, trustworthy, competent, or aggressive?
There are four basic conflict tactics. The first three, volatile, validator, and avoider, are found in stable couples. While the fourth style, hostile, is found in unstable couples.
What is Gottman's model (1993)?
When victims of abuse perceive the abusive behaviors of their partner as nonabusive and normal to downplay the severity of what just occurred.
What is minimization?
This type of counseling combines the idea of changing actual behaviors with an emphasis on the thought behind those behaviors. This kind of therapy says that these behaviors themselves might no have to change if partners simply interpret those behaviors differently.
What is Cognitive-behavioral therapy?
This theory says that we al have basic motivation to grow our sense of self, and better our talents, knowledge, and social networks.
What is the self-expansion theory (Aron and Aron, 1986)