Definitions
The Golden Rule
Do unto others as you want done unto you.
Jumping to Conclusions
Believing one is certain about a situation despite having little or no evidence
S
Specific
C
Connect - Identify what you need to change
Three Types of Goals
Initial, intermediate, long-term
Values
What is important to someone, what one may believe in; can be positive or negative.
Everything, everything, everything
Believing that you can judge a person's own worth, motivation, or ability on the basis of a single situation (character assassination)
M
Measurable
A
Analyze - Think about how your actions are affecting yourself and others; how are your values/beliefs affecting the situation; what do you want to be different?
Initial Phase of the Thinking Cycle
Triggers
Humility
Marked by modesty; not arrogant; a lack of false pride.
Them, Them, Them
Believing that other people or circumstances are the sole cause of every problem you encounter
A
Action-focused
D
Decide and Plan - Figure out your options/choices, set goals and tasks, and make a detailed plan
Phase 2 of Thinking Cycle
Thoughts (Thinking Traps)
Anger
A natural emotion. Strong feeling of displeasure or hostility towards something real or imagined. Perceived as a threat.
Always, Always, Always
Believing that negative events are unchangeable and that you have little or no control over them.
R
Realistic
E
Execute - Put your plan into action
Phase 3 of the Thinking Cycle
Outcomes
Character
Having the integrity to do what's right, in spite of personal sacrifice.
Mind Reading
Assuming that you know what another person is thinking, or expecting another person to know what you are thinking
T
Time-Bound
T
Test - Figure out if your plan is working; are you meeting your goals? Does your plan need to change?
Emotions, reactions