Judging
Sending Solutions
Avoiding the Other's Concerns
Examples
100
What is the definition of: Name Calling, Labeling, Ridiculing, Shaming
What is: Labeling prevents us from getting to know ourselves and others- There is no longer a person before us, but a type. Labels give us the illusion that we know the other
100

What Barrier does this definition belong to: Backing ideas with the force of social, moral, or theological authority- shoulds, oughts, "the right thing to do"?

What is: Moralizing, Exhorting, Preaching
100

What Barrier does this definition belong to: This is pushing the other's problems aside through distraction?

What is: Diverting, Distracting, Withdrawing and Humouring
100
What Barrier does the following example belong to: "Wash the dishes or I am running over your PS4 with the lawnmower!" 
What is: Threatening, Warning, Admonishing
200
What Barrier does this definition belong to: Making a negative evaluation of other people or person, their actions or attitudes?
What is: Criticizing, Judging, Disagreeing, Blaming
200
What is the definition of: Threatening, Warning, Admonishing?

What is: A solution with an emphasis on the punishment forth coming

200

What is the definition of: Reassuring, Sympathizing, Consoling, Supporting?

What is: If its perceived as trying to stop the other person from feeling the negative emotions they are experiencing, it can drive a wedge between people. Reassurance does not allow the comforter to really be with the other person. 

200

What Barrier does the following example belong to: "If you weren't gambling, then you'd actually be able to afford to take me out for supper for once!"

What is: Logical Argument, Lecturing, Teaching
300
What Barrier does this definition belong to: When praise is used to manipulate, it can be a problem? 
What is: Evaluative Praising 
300
What is the definition of: Ordering, Directing, Commanding?
What is: An order is a solution sent coercively and backed by force.
300

What Barrier does this definition belong to: Logic focuses on facts & avoids feelings. Feelings are who we are. They are the main issue.  

What is: Logical Argument, Lecturing, Teaching
300

What Barrier does the following example belong to: "Maybe you should apologize to her, she might actually forgive you then"

What is: Moralizing, Exhorting, Preaching
400
What is the definition of: Diagnosing, Interpreting, Analyzing
What is: Another form of labeling. A form of making negative assumptions. We play amateur psychiatrist or detective and determine unconscious motives.
400

What Barrier does this definition belong to: Questions are usually a poor substitute for more direct communication. They are incomplete, indirect, veiled, impersonal and consequently ineffective messages that breed defense reactions & resistance.

What is: Excessive/Inappropriate Questioning, Probing, Interrogating
400

What Barrier does the following example belong to: "Just because you are Asian, you think you're smarter than me?"

What is: Diagnosing, Interpreting, Analyzing 
500
What is the definition of: Advising, Giving Solutions or Suggestions

What is: The problem with unsolicited advice is that it is often a basic insult to the intelligence of the other person.

500

What Barrier does the following example belong to: "You are such a great guy! I know you would never leave me for anyone else"

What is: Evaluative Praising