Understanding Breakups
This term describes the initial phase of intense emotions following a breakup.
What is the "Breakup Curve"?
This visual tool helps individuals identify and articulate their emotions post-breakup.
What is the "Feelings Wheel"?
This type of break is recommended to establish healthy boundaries and begin the healing process after a relationship ends.
What is a "clean break"?
Reflecting on personal principles and what is important to you helps in this process of self-discovery post-breakup.
What is "values exploration"?
In this sitcom, Ross famously declared, "We were on a break!" after a misunderstanding in his relationship with Rachel.
What is Friends?
According to the workbook, this famous psychologist said, "We are never so vulnerable as when we are in love."
Who is Sigmund Freud?
Experiencing intense emotions that come and go after a breakup is likened to these natural phenomena.
What are "waves"?
The workbook advises reassessing this online activity, as it can increase distress and hinder personal growth post-breakup.
What is "social media usage"?
Distinguishing between these two aspects in relationships can clarify what is essential versus desirable in future partnerships.
What are "needs and wants"?
This singer's Red album is filled with songs about heartbreak, including the hit "All Too Well."
Who is Taylor Swift?
The three-step coping process outlined in the workbook includes Acceptance of Loss, Coping with Pain, and this final step.
What is "Investing in New Endeavors"?
The workbook suggests that obsessive thoughts after a breakup can be managed by this technique, which involves recognizing thoughts as separate from oneself.
What is "defusion"?
Writing down thoughts and feelings to process emotions is a common form of this therapeutic activity.
What is "journaling"?
Complete this sentence: "If I were supporting myself through a breakup, I would practice self-care by __________."
This movie about a breakup famously begins with the line, "This is a story of boy meets girl, but you should know upfront, this is not a love story."
What is (500) Days of Summer?
Breakups can feel as painful as physical injury because of the activation of this part of the brain.
What is the "pain network"?
This technique focuses on engaging the senses to reduce emotional overwhelm.
What is "Mindfulness"?
Scheduling small, enjoyable activities into your day is part of this behavioral technique to rebuild joy.
What is "behavioral activation"?
List three songs you would put on a breakup playlist to help process emotions and move forward.
"I Will Always Love You" by Whitney Houston (1992) "Un-Break My Heart" by Toni Braxton (1996) "Someone Like You" by Adele (2011)
"Since U Been Gone" by Kelly Clarkson (2004) "All Too Well" by Taylor Swift (2012)
"I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor (1978) "Back to Black" by Amy Winehouse (2006) "Cry Me a River" by Justin Timberlake (2002) "Nothing Compares 2 U" by Sinéad O'Connor (1990) "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together" by Taylor Swift (2012)"I Can't Make Yo Love Me" Bonnie Raitt (1991)
This 2023 Barbie movie character ends her relationship with Ken, declaring she doesn’t need to prioritize a romantic partner.
Who is Barbie?
This term describes the obsessive urge to repeatedly check an ex's social media, even though it prolongs emotional distress.
What is "social media surveillance"?
The workbook uses this analogy to describe the importance of balancing emotions and rational thinking.
What is the "Wise Mind"?
This concept involves sitting with uncomfortable emotions rather than avoiding or suppressing them.
What is "distress tolerance"?
Create a mantra for someone going through a tough breakup. It should be short, empowering, and easy to remember.
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together"
"Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny"
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened"
"I care about you so much, but I don't feel like we are a good fit for each other anymore"
"We both deserve a relationship that makes us feel amazing, and right now, our relationship isn't it"
This song by Ariana Grande lists all of her exes and emphasizes gratitude, not bitterness, post-breakup.
What is "thank u, next"?