Red
What is the driving core motive for reds?
POWER
What is the driving core motive for Yellows?
Fun
What is the driving core motive for Blues?
Intimacy
What is the driving core motive for whites?
Peace
How many of 1st year marriages end in Divorce?
40%
interesting [possible] dynamics within the code..that you may find helpful
With Blues and Whites, on the other hand, the Blue wants to be in control, and the White is fine with that as long as that control doesn’t extend too destroy their own sense of independence. Blues are driven by their emotions, and Whites are highly logical, which can potentially create a disconnect. However, they are very similar in their nonverbal preference, sensitivity, and desire to accommodate each other and even others outside of the relationship.
Blues and Yellows are the other “complementary opposite”. They are both emotionally driven. The Blue in the relationship likes to be in control and provide the structure, while the non-controlling Yellow is free to bring lots of energy and positive, carefree attitude. The mutually seek a close, personal connection.
Reds Strengths?
Responsible, Focused, Confident, Leader, Proactive
Yellow Strengths?
Happy, Sociable, Spontaneous, Charismatic, Inclusive
Blue Strengths?
Caring, sincere, intuitive, loyal, thoughtful
White Strengths?
Kind, even tempered, objective, diplomatic, inventive
How many of 2nd year marriages end in Divorce?
67%
things that help me stay in sync with others..
matching the energy of the others in the room
inclusive with others regarding their emotional wellbeing. *she may not feel heard
love languages/ speaking their language
-shared time together
-words of affection
-physical touch
I feel ___ when you ____
(one cannot challenge you if you truly feel a certain way)
knowing your audience
fake it til you make it
plan ahead to think ahead (discussing and planning the sylabus)
Reds Limitations?
Selfish, Insensitive, Always Right, Relentless, Impatient
Yellows Limitations?
Uncommitted, Disorganized, Afraid to Face the Facts, Unfocused, Impulsive
Blue Limitations?
Self-Righteous, Overly Sensitive, Perfectionist, Worry-Prone, Unrealistic Expectations
White Limitations?
Indecisive, Silently Stubborn, Avoids Conflict, Unexpressive, Detached
How Many of 3rd year marriages end in Divorce?
74%
impasse...
I feel frustrated at time when I feel like I am not doing enough- I don't have three days a week without doing anything.
the control of the environment is important for her.
Reds Needs & Wants?
To look good technically, To be right, To be respected, To obtain approval from select few, To hide insecurities tightly, To be productive, To be in leadership position, To experience challenging adventures
Yellows Needs & Wants?
To look good socially, to be noticed, to be praised, to receive approval from masses, to hide insecurities loosely, To achieve happiness, To be free, To enjoy playful adventure
To be morally good, to be understood, to be appreciated, to be accepted, to reveal insecurities, to achieve quality, to be autonomous, to have security
Whites Needs & Wants?
To be good inside, to be given space, to be respected, to be accepted, to withhold insecurities, to please self and others, to be independent, to feel contented
What % of people were fired last year because of relationship problems?
85%
challenges in the past to glean from
separation led to renting a place above the second place but never moved in. it Was my choice. I think we just.. I didn't feel compatible with her and having feelings of this is not going to be the next 20 years and not feeling heard. aspects of drinking mixed in with ..
What is the DO NOT LIST TO RELATING TO REDS?
Argue from emotional perspective, Be slow and indecisive, Wait for them to ask your opinion, Take their arguments personally
Yellows Understress?
Jump ship, Make light of it, "Busy"ness not business, Escape in Fun, Blame Others
What is the DO LIST TO RELATING TO BLUES?
Give them time to collect their thoughts, show appreciation, seek to understand them, be loyal
What do Whites do Under stress?
Close down, ignore, fantasize, stuff stress, blame others then self
The average manager spends what % of his/her time resolving personality conflicts?
19-29%
what is the 54321 coping technique?
well this is a grounding exercise.
before starting this exercise, pay attention to your breathing. Slow, deep, long breaths can help you maintain a sense of calm or help you return to a calmer state. Once you find your breath, go through the following steps to help ground yourself:
5: Acknowledge FIVE things you see around you. It could be a pen, a spot on the ceiling, anything in your surroundings.
4: Acknowledge FOUR things you can touch around you. It could be your hair, a pillow, or the ground under your feet.
3: Acknowledge THREE things you hear. This could be any external sound. If you can hear your belly rumbling that counts! Focus on things you can hear outside of your body.
2: Acknowledge TWO things you can smell. Maybe you are in your office and smell pencil, or maybe you are in your bedroom and smell a pillow. If you need to take a brief walk to find a scent you could smell soap in your bathroom, or nature outside.
1: Acknowledge ONE thing you can taste. What does the inside of your mouth taste like—gum, coffee, or the sandwich from lunch?
This technique is one of many options you could use if you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed.