Ch 9: Developing & Ending Relationships
Refers to the lack of knowledge people have about their relationships, and it stems from three kinds of doubts: Self Uncertainty, Partner Uncertainty, Relationship Uncertainty
What is Relational Uncertainty?
A kind of love is made up of equal portions of intimacy, passion, and commitment
What is consummate love?
A family type that characterized by both a lot of open communication and pressure to conform to the family norms
What is consensual?
Refers to the use of communication to change another person’s beliefs, attitudes, or actions.
What is interpersonal influence?
A conflict style that involves communicating aggressively to win the battle
What is dominating?
a state that exists when relationship partners rely on each other to accomplish their goals
What is Interdependence?
A kind of love style that gradually develops from friendship
What is storge?
A type of family system is characterized by rigid internal boundaries, such that family members don’t communicate much information, affection, or support.
What is disengaged family systems?
A characteristic of influence messages that refers to the reasons that are given to justify compliance with the request
What is argument?
Refers to the ability to affect both one’s own outcomes and another person’s behaviors, attitudes, and outcome
What is Interpersonal power?
Essential tools for sharing information and reducing uncertainty
What are Self-disclosure and Norm-reciprocity?
Internal relational dialectic tension: Sharing everything with a partner Vs Keep some matters to yourself
What is Openness Vs Privacy?
A type of marriage where partners emphasize spending quality time together, but they also put their individual attitudes, goals, and desires ahead of obligations to the household
What is independent marriage
A secondary goal for interpersonal influence that involves managing your emotions during interaction
What are arousal goals?
A conflict strategy that involves cooperating with a conflict partner to identify a mutually satisfying solution
What is integrative conflict strategy?
A rule that guides social exchange, which dictates that each partner’s rewards should be proportional to his or her costs
What is the rule of distributive justice?
External relational dialectic tension: Spend time away from others Vs Spend time together with others
What is Autonomy Vs Connection?
A family function that involves teaching children about behaviors that are appropriate, expected, moral, or polite
What is family socialization?
A strategy for managing multiple influence goals involves pursuing goals one at a time over the course of an interaction
What is sequencing?
When people who have less power than their partner withhold complaints to avoid conflict and perceive their complaints as less serious
What is the chilling effect?
A stage in Knapp’s model of relationship dissolution that involves trying to establish a shared conception of the relationship
What is intensifying?
A coping strategy that cycles between the different sides of a dialectical tension at different times
What is spiraling alteration?
A family type where members have the freedom to make their own decisions without discussing issues with other family members
What is laissez faire?
What type of power would your mechanic have over you (assuming you do not know much about cars)?
What is expert power?
A conflict strategy that includes criticism, expressing anger, justifying one’s own position, and denying the other person’s claims in an effort to destroy the other person’s position and win the argument
What is distributive conflict strategy?