relationship theories that should be true
what effect is this: since you're beautiful, you must have all these other great qualities along with it.
appearance: what-is-beautiful-is-good effect
we seek relationships where the benefits outweigh the costs. there are debits and credits
social exchange theory
step ONE of Knapp's relationship model.
"Am I attracted to this person? Should I initiate conversation?"
initiating
high or low expectation that everybodys gonna be on the same page. Everyone has the same values or belief system expectation.
conformity level
companionship and achievement of practical goals
functions of friendship. we want to do stuff with them and coworkers
people try to match with the same levels of attractiveness
matching
Dependent relationship. unhappy but stable 🙄
CL > O > CLALT
what steps 2,3,4,5 of getting into a positive relationship according to Knapp?
experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding. if i actually have to have these memorized im cooked.
how many topics are safe for you to talk about in your family? Do you talk a lot? Do you talk about a lot?
conversation level
is friendship volatile?
yessssss it's subject to change because people change. why friendships end is because we don't have shared interests anymore.
we like people who like us. No fear of rejection; validation.
reciprocal liking
outcome greater than comparison level
satisfaction
what is wrong with Knapp's model?
linearity and mutual exclusivity. those don't always happen.
consensual, pluralistic, protective, laissez-faire. which two are NOT threatened by conflict?
pluralistic and laissez-faire
friendship is governed by rules. give an example of a rule in a friendship
you can't talk to my ex, you can't keep secrets, you can't ditch us for jbelljr
standards. expectations. what you expect to get out of a relationship.
comparison level (CL)
outcome greater than comparison level of alternatives
stability
Social networks, Openness, Assurances, Positivity, Sharing tasks
you need your social networks to be integrated, share stuff, "we’re still good!", don't be negative, do stuff together
consensual, pluralistic, protective, laissez-faire. pick one where children are worth less.
consensual and protective. this is bc of the norms of conformity
explain these steps:
Role-limited interaction, Friendly relations, Moves toward friendship, Nascent friendship, Stabilized friendship, Waning friendship.
Holding a door open or smiling at someone, Friendly conversation, "Oh we should go get breakfast before class lets hangout, View each other as friends, Really trust each other, Time has passed and we’ve changed as people. don't disclose as much.
how does your relationship measure up to the alternatives present. rainbow fish.
comparison level of alternatives (CLALT)
Uncertain relationship. happy and unstable ;)
CLALT > O > CL
limit interactions because you want the surface to be cool. “Need to know” basis only
stagnating (this is knapp breaking up steps)
what is the theory that families communicate based on their levels of conversation and conformity?
family communication patterns theory
communal goes with companionship as _____ goes with achievement of practical goals
agentic. btw this is just functions of friendship again