All About Conflict
Friends and Conflict
Problem Solving
Conflict Escalator
Conflict Scenarios
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What is conflict?
Conflict is a disagreement, or a difference of opinion. Sometimes conflict can cause a fight/argument.
100
Friends always agree on things. True or false?
False. It's normal for friends to not agree on everything.
100
If a problem is resolved in a way that meets the needs of all people involved, we call it win-win, or thumbs ___.
Up.
100
If you are going up the conflict escalator, your conflict is getting _________.
Worse. Your conflict is escalating and getting worse.
100
Your friend sent you a mean note. What can you do to avoid a conflict?
Answers may vary (examples: Talk it out, use a calm voice, tell them how you are feeling, ask them to please stop).
200
When conflict gets worse we say it ___________. (Think of the conflict escalator.)
Escalates
200
Having a conflict means that you shouldn't be friends anymore. True or false?
False. Conflicts are part of life and many friends experience them. True friends will be willing to try and work things out.
200
In the ABCDs of Problem Solving, the A stands for _______?
A stands for "Ask, what is the problem?"
200
If you are going down the conflict escalator, then your conflict is getting ____________.
Better. Your conflict is de-escalating and getting better.
200
Someone keeps interrupting you when you're talking. What should you do to avoid a conflict?
Answers may vary (examples: ask them to please stop, use a polite/calm voice, share your feelings, take a break, let it go, ask for help from a teacher).
300
When conflict gets better we say it ___________. (Think of the conflict escalator.)
De-escalates.
300
True or false: Someone is always right and someone is always wrong in a conflict.
False. Conflict is a disagreement, and doesn't necessarily mean one person is right and one is wrong.
300
In the ABCDs of Problem Solving, the B stands for _______?
B stands for "Brainstorm some solutions/ways to solve the problem".
300
What is something you can do (words or actions) that moves a problem UP the conflict escalator?
Varies (examples: Yell, hit or push, be bossy, call names, roll your eyes, don't listen to the other person, get in personal space, lie, etc.)
300
Someone rolled their eyes at you while you were talking to them. What can you do to avoid a conflict?
Answers may vary (examples: walk away, ignore it, ask the person to stop, use Talk it Out or an I-message, talk to someone else next time).
400
Is conflict good or bad?
Neither. Conflicts just happen. They are part of life.
400
_____________, or saying untrue things about someone behind their back, is one reason that conflict may occur.
Gossiping/spreading rumors.
400
In the ABCDs of Problem Solving, the C stands for _______?
C stands for Choose the best solution.
400
What is something you can do (words or actions) that moves a problem DOWN the conflict escalator?
Varies (examples: Use a calm voice, take a break, apologize, ask for help, take turns, let it go, use humor, compromise, listen, etc.)
400
Someone told you that your friend was talking about you at recess. What should you do to avoid a conflict?
Answers may vary (examples: talk to your friend directly, use a calm voice, listen, take a break if upset, ask for help, share your feelings, ask them to please stop).
500
When it comes to conflict, what part can be good or bad?
The choices we make can be good or bad.
500
__________ to others is an important skill to have when dealing with conflict.
Listening (but answers may vary)
500
In the ABCDs of Problem Solving, the D stands for _______?
D stands for, "Do it!" Pick your solution and try it out!
500
Share a time you were on a conflict escalator with someone else. What happened?
Answer can vary.
500
You and a friend were joking around, and you said something on accident that really hurt their feelings. What can you do to help solve this problem/conflict?
Answers may vary (examples: ask the person why they're upset, listen, apologize, accept responsibility).