Feelings First
What is the first thing you should identify during a conflict?
Your Feelings
What style ignores conflict completely?
Avoiding
What word do I-Statements start with?
I
What are the three steps?
Stop, Think, Choose
Name one calming strategy.
Deep breathing, counting, walking away
Name one feeling someone might have during a disagreement.
Name one feeling someone might have during a disagreement.
What style tries to win at all costs?
Aggressive
Fill in the blank: I feel ___ when you ___ because ___
(varied responses)
What happens if you skip the “Think” step?
Poor Decisions
Why is calming down important before solving a problem?
You think more clearly
Why is it important to understand your feelings before reacting?
So you don’t react impulsively
What style gives in to keep the peace?
Passive
Why are I-Statements better than “You always…”?
They reduce blame and cause people to be less defensive
Name one thing you can do to pause before reacting.
Deep breathing, count to 10, walk away
What part of your brain shuts down when you’re very angry?
The thinking brain (Prefrontal Cortex)
True or False: All feelings are wrong during conflict.
False
What style tries to find a fair solution for everyone?
Assertive
Rewrite: “You never listen!”
I feel frustrated when I don’t feel heard because I want to share my thoughts.
Why is choosing a solution important?
It leads to better outcomes
What is one body sign that you need to calm down?
Fast heartbeat, clenched fists, tense muscles
What happens when you ignore your feelings during a conflict?
They build up or explode later
Which style usually leads to the healthiest relationships?
Assertive
What is the last part of an I-Statement formula?
I need / I would like
What should you consider before choosing a solution?
Consequences
True or False: Walking away always means losing.
False