Conflict
What is another word for conflict resolution?
Problem solving
Say the problem if: My friend made fun of my new haircut
The problem is my friend is teasing me
True or false: Talking about what is bothering you is not helpful
False. Talking it through is one of the best ways to get through a conflict
Why is it important to stay calm during a conflict?
So you can work on a solution together and it doesn't get worse
What is conflict?
When 2 or more people want different things, or a disagreement
Say the problem if: I went to bed too late and missed the school bus. My parents are frustrated because now they have to drive me to school.
The problem is I went to bed too late for school night and now my parents have to drive me to school.
Why are "I feel" statements helpful when trying to talk it out?
"I feel" statements are helpful because it gives you chance to say how you feel in the situation.
What is the proper way to take a deep breath?
True or false: Conflict is a part of life
True
Say the problem if: I am doing an assignment with a classmate and they are not helping
The problem is that I am doing all the work
After sharing how you feel what else should you let the person or people know?
Share what you need in the situation or what you would like to have happen
True or false: Pounding my fist on a desk is a good way to let people know I am frustrated?
False: It is not helpful because it is unsafe and disruptive
Where can conflict happen?
Class, home, work, cafeteria, outside, public spaces
Say the problem if: I made a teasing joke that I thought was funny but now my friend seems upset
The problem is that my friend is upset that I teased them
Which statement is a better example of talking it out and why?
#2 because it clearly explains the problem and is respectful.
Name 2 healthy ways to calm down when upset or frustrated
Deep breaths, counting in your head, saying "I'm frustrated", self talk
What is the first step in resolving conflict?
Say the problem
Say the problem if: The class makes too much noise during work time and I can't focus on my work
The problem is: I have a hard time completing my work when the class is noisy
What are the 4 steps to talk it out?
1. Stay Calm
2. Use I feel statement
3. Share what you need or want
5. Use active listening when its their turn to talk
What is some self talk that you can use when you are in feeling upset during a conflict?
"I can stay calm" "I will listen to them" "this will be ok" "this is not a big problem" "I can handle this"