Positive/Negative
Respond to peer pressure
You are working group project one of the people in your group is not doing anything. What should you do?
Give them a task to do, remind them that they need to participate, get help from the teacher if they are still not doing their part.
It is always best to react to a conflict when it happens, even when you feel angry.
FALSE- usually our reactions when upset are angry and negative. Sitting back and thinking about ways to handle it before reacting is always the best option.
Your friend is starting to spend time with another student in class instead of you. What should you do?
See if there are ways you can all be friends. Let your friend know you're missing time with them. Recognize that friendships change and it's okay to spend time with different people.
Know when not to engage
You are playing a game with some friends and you win. One of the players is really angry that you won and is not being a good sport about it. What should you do?
Watch your words; try not to brag too much. Ignore them until they calm down. Remind them it's just a game. Try to lighten the mood.
Conflicts are always bad and should be avoided
Your friend always wants to be the one who chooses what activity you will do. This is starting to get frustrating to you. What should you do?
Ask if you can take turns deciding what to do. Use chance - coin toss, rock/paper/scissors etc. Compromise and find a solution. Talk about it and let them know you're getting frustrated.
Compromise to settle conflict
You are working on a project with a partner and you both want to do the first part. What should you do?
Chance - rock/paper/scissors, flip a coin to decide Compromise - find a win/win solution. Take turns.
Conflict is not normal; only people who are argumentative, fussy, or make bad choices deal with conflict.
False
Your best friend seems mad at you and is ignoring you but she hasn't told you why she's angry and you don't have a clue what is bothering her. What should you do?
When she looks calmer, talk about it and ask what's wrong. Let her know you want to know what's wrong to try to fix it and that you're willing to talk about it with her when she's ready.
Engage in physical contact and unacceptable language to solve problem
Negative
You are part of a reading/ELA group for your class. When it is time to discuss what you're reading, another class member keeps interrupting you and you are getting mad. What should you do?
Talk it out. Use an I message to let them know how you're feeling. "I'm feeling frustrated when you keep interrupting. I need you to let me have a chance to share my ideas too."
A conflict can happen between two or more people. A conflict can also happen inside of, or within a person too.
TRUE- conflict doesn't always mean disagreeing with other people. Conflicts can occur within ourselves as we are trying to make appropriate decisions.
Your friend let you borrow something of theirs and now you can't find it. They are upset. What should you do?
Apologize for losing it. Talk it out. Share (one of yours if you have it). Let your parent know and get help looking for it or replacing it. If you borrowed it, you're responsible for it.
Use self management and self regulation
You are playing a game that requires you to be divided up into teams of 2. You don't like the person you are teamed up with, but the teacher said you have to work together. What should you do?
Stop and think about how that person would feel if you complained about having to work with them. Recognize that life isn't always fair and we have to work together sometimes so just deal with it.
How someone responds to a disagreement or problem can either make the conflict worse or help everyone feel that they are valued and that their voices matter.
TRUE- positive problem solving can alleviate and solve conflict and make people feel better about the situation.
Your only friend in class is hanging out during recess with someone that you don't like. You are getting frustrated by this. What should you do?
If they are your friend, then it's not fair to ask them to choose between you and the person you don't like. You need to calm down and think about it to find a win/win solution. Maybe if you give the other person a chance, you'll be able to make a new friend. You could talk to your friend about it but recognize that you may just need to give the other person a chance to get to know them too.