Feelings and Anger
Name two ways you can handle your feelings that are healthy and safe
Possible answers:
Taking deep breaths, counting to 10, walking away, taking space, drawing/writing/dancing/listen to music, think something happy, relax your body
What is the bug & wish strategy?
A way to express how you are feeling
the first step to solving a problem
Identifying the problem
Name two ways you can be a good friend
Possible Answers: Listening, sharing, helping, being respectful, offering advice
What are two ways you can advocate for yourself in the classroom?
Possible Answers: Ask a question, talk to your teacher privately, ask a peer, write down questions, focus on the work, write your teacher/counselor a note.
How does your body feel when you are angry
Possible Answers: Tense body, heart racing, mind goes blank, difficulty breathing, face is red/warm
What is the format of a bug and a wish?
It bugs me when you ___________ I wish you would____________
Sara wants to go to the Avenues after school because her friends all go there and her mom won't let her because she does not think it is too late. What is Sara's perspective? What is her mom's perspective?
Sara-that her mom is not being fair and she wants to go with her friends Mom-that she wants Sara to be home early.
List 2 verbal do's in a conversation that show you are a good friend
Possible Answers: Stay on topic, Ask follow up questions, have a good voice level, use appropriate language
You see a classmate pushing your friend... What would you do?
Possible Answers: tell them to stop, and get an adult.
What are two of your anger triggers
Possible Answers: being told no, getting a bad grade, not being included
Create a bug and wish: Your friend cuts in line
It bugs me when you cut in line.....I wish you would go to the back of the line.
Kids are having a conversation and you jump right into it and add your thoughts even though they are not talking to you. What would the other students' reactions be and how could you have handled that situation differently?
Possible Answers
Students- annoyed, mad, unhappy
Next time: wait for a break in the conversation; ask to join; talk to someone else
Explain what loyalty in a friend means to you. Give a real life example of when you were loyal to a friend.
Possible Answers: Being there for a friend, standing up for them, supporting them
What are 3 conflict starters
Possible Answers:
Name calling, spreading rumors, pushing/shoving, acting bossy, accusing/blaming, teasing, being rude/mean, interrupting etc.
You notice that Ahmed is really angry about something but you do not know what it is about. What would you do?
Possible Answers: Ask him what is wrong, ask someone else if they know what is wrong with him, offer him strategies to calm down
Create your bug & wish: Your friend pushes you
It bugs me when you push me...I wish you would respect my space.
Bandar tells you that he is mad because he got a bad grade on a test. You say "well i got a 100". How do you think Bandar will feel and what could you do differently?
Bandar-sad, embarrassed, disappointed
Differently-offer him advice for how to study differently or try to cheer him up
Name two ways to support a good friend who is going through a difficult time
Possible Answers: Listen, offer advice, compliment them, offer to help them, make them laugh etc
What are 3 conflict savers
Possible Answers: Apologize, show respect, brain storm solutions, walk away, get the facts, make a deal, compromise, tell how you feel etc
What type of behavior is inappropriate when expressing your anger? Name 2.
Possible Answers: Blaming someone else, yelling, screaming, throwing something, avoiding the issue etc.
Your friend ignores you and starts sitting with other people at lunch. Create a bug and a wish.
It bugs me when you sit with other people at lunch because it seems like you do not want to be my friend anymore....I wish you would include me
Name problem solving process
BONUS!! DOUBLE!!
1. Cool Off
2. Share, listen, check for understanding
3. Take Responsibility
4. Brainstorm Solutions
5. Choose a Solution
6. Forgive & Thank
What is the most difficult social situation that you experienced last year? How could you have handled it differently?
Ms. Evelyn will accept any reasonable response!
Describe a recent conflict that you have had or have seen and talk about how it was solved and if you would have done anything differently.
Ms. Evelyn will accept any reasonable response!