Work
Co-worker - Takes credit for your ideas and work
Talk to sponsor, be willing to address the issue appropriately and have a discussion. Use the S-71
Spouse - No milk was picked up
Take personal responsibility - do it your self if you want it done. Concept 9
Responsibility - Tasks assigned not done and event is tomorrow
Reason it out - Good personal leadership at all service levels in a necessity. Do not do for others as they can do for themselves.
Sponsorship - Sponsee does not turn up for agreed meeting
Sponsors model responsibility by setting boundaries around their time and may have sponsorship agreements.
Traffic - Cut-off with no indicators almost causing an accident
Accountabilty - colleagues not doing their part
Be brave and confront the accountability - am I willing to participate in an informed discussion.
Friends - Breaking plans
Maturity checklist says: 7. is a good loser, accepting defeat and disappointment without complaint or ill temper. We have a voice and we can make choices to set boundaries too.
Group Business - Someone wants to remove God from the meeting
Respond appropriately with facts from the NZ Handbook
Gossip - someone has shared to others outside about your group sharing
Talk to the member directly, use Tradition 11
Queues - Someone joins the queue in front of you
Feel free to use your voice, remembering the Maturity checklist - 3. Does not readily experience a loss of temper or "fly off the handle"
Equality - You are paid less and do more work than your colleague
Ask god to be with you and be prepared to face any hostility. Discuss don't attack, keep voice low an pleasant, don't make demands.
Money - Over-spending
Talk to sponsor, Am I willing to participate in an informed discussion with the other party?
Unity - A long-timer makes a decision without discussion.
Off topic -shares about alcoholic
Encourage and prepare Chairs to chair meetings successfully. Tradition Ten reminds us to keep our focus on our own program.
Rude - Restaurant server sarcasm
Feel free to use your voice, remembering the Maturity checklist -8. Does not worry about things that can't be changed
Your manager keeps giving you more work than you have time to do
Reason it out and set a boundary
Child - Child wants to go to a death metal concert
GO through a "KBDM" process, have a discussion and keep an open mind
Chairing - A member is ranting on a topic for a long time
Politely ask the member to finish sharing, and then have a quiet word to them after the meeting.
Cross-talk - Members interrupts a sharer
Refer to our preamble about it being a no-cross talk meeting, be brave and mention it at the time, or after the meeting. Remember Al-Anon is a safe place and if its to be its up to me.
Laws - Someone parks in Wheelchair zone
Remembering Tradition one we have a responsibility to voice our views and opinions and accept those of others. Also remembering We maintain our dignity and self control while expressing our views and opinions.
Safety - Your team leader has agressive outburts
Ensure your personal safety. Don't react, Talk to your sponsor, Get your self ready to respond
Parents - Keep turning up univited
Set a boundary
Dominance - A member tries to agressively influence group a decision
Use the Service manual to remind your fellows of the code of conduct we have in Al-Anon, page 52“Al-Anon and Alateen members expect a safe and pleasant environment when they attend a meeting, "
Over-sharing - Ignore time-keeper
Tradition One, remember the importance of "personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity." Speak up
Violence - Witness someone being beaten
Maturity checklist - 4. Keeps calm in emergencies and deals with them in a logical, reasonable fashion