Getting Along
Someone made a face at you. What could you do?
Ignore them
Talk it out with them
You just got new glasses and there is a student in your class who is teasing you about them. This hurts your feelings. What I message could you use to tell them your feelings are hurt?
I feel _______ when ________________. I need _________. I feel upset when you're making fun of my glasses. I need you to stop.
You are working in a group in your classroom and one of the people in your group is not doing anything. What should you do?
Ask the person what they might like to do
Give them a task to do
Remind them that they need to participate in some way
Get help from the teacher if they are still not doing their part
Someone on the bus is calling you names every day. This really hurts your feelings. What should you do?
Avoid - Ignore what you can
Assertiveness - Ask them to stop
Get help - Tell the bus driver
Your best friend is starting to spend time with another student in your class instead of you. What should you do?
See if there are ways you can all be friends
Let your friend know you're missing time with them
Recognize that friendships change and it's okay to spend time with different people
You are playing a game and you both want to go first. What could you do?
Chance (Rock, Paper, Scissors)
Compromise
Take turns
Negotiate
There are a group of kids on the playground from your class who are playing soccer and they tell you that you can't play because you aren't good enough. How would you handle the situation?
Find something else to do
Talk it out, use an I statement to describe how you feel
Assertiveness - Talk to them and let them know you don't think this is fair
You are playing a game with some friends and you win. One of the players is really angry that you won and is not being a good sport about it. What should you do?
Ignore them until they calm down
Remind them it's just a game
Provide encouragement about how they played well
A student in your class was playing in the bathroom when you were in there, and you know that is not allowed. He threatens to hurt you if you tell the teacher. What should you do?
Try to explain why his behavior is concerning to you
Tell the teacher anyway - if someone is threatening you this isn't safe.
Your friend always wants to be the one who chooses what game you will play. This is starting to get frustrating to you. What should you do?
Ask if you can take turns deciding what to do
Use chance - coin toss, rock/paper/scissors
Compromise and find a win/win solution
Talk about it and let them know you're getting frustrated
You and your friend have not been as close lately. How could you approach a conversation about this with your friend?
Use I messages to tell your friend how you feel
Let them know what's bothering you calmly without blaming them for the distance
Tell them how important it is you try to still be friends
You just got a new haircut and it is very different from your original look. You're worried that someone might make fun of it. You walk into the classroom and a student laughs and points at you. What should you do?
Tell the student that him laughing hurt your feelings and ask him to stop
Self-talk - tell yourself positive things about your hair
Own it - Tell the person you got a hair cut and you love it! Thank them for noticing
You are working on a project with a partner and you both want to do the first part. What should you do?
Chance - rock/paper/scissors, flip a coin to decide
Compromise - find a win/win solution
Take turns
You see one of your friends being made fun of at recess by another student. What should you do?
Be a friend - Go up to your friend and make sure they're okay
Let the other student know that what they are saying is inappropriate and hurtful
Make sure you don't join in these behaviors.
Your best friend looks mad at you and is ignoring you but she hasn't told you why she's angry and you don't have a clue what is bothering her. What should you do?
Use an I-message to describe how you feel
When she looks like she's calmed down, talk about it and ask what's wrong. Let her know you want to know what's wrong to try to fix it and that you're willing to talk about it with her when she's ready.
One of your friends was teasing you and things went too far and now you are mad. What should you do?
Use a coping skill (counting to 10, deep breathing)
When calm, let them know that they went too far
Use an I message to tell your friend how you feel
You asked your friend about her dad and she got very upset because she doesn't see her father anymore. You didn't mean to hurt her feelings but didn't realize that this might be a sensitive topic to her. What should you do?
Apologize to her
Talk it out and let her know you didn't mean to hurt her feelings
You are part of a science group for your class. When it is time to discuss the project that you are working on, another class member keeps interrupting you and you are getting mad. What should you do?
Talk it out - use an I message to let them know how you're feeling. "I'm feeling frustrated when you keep interrupting. I need you to let me have a chance to share my ideas too."
A "friend" of yours is constantly making fun of you in front of other people but is nice to you when you are both alone. You are confused and hurt by this friend's actions. What should you do?
Talk about it with the "friend." Let them know it's not okay for them to be so mean to you in front of others and that this is crossing the line.
Decide if it's worth trying to be friends with someone who is treating you like that. Think about what a real friend would do.
Your friend let you borrow one of his video games and now you can't find it. He is upset. What should you do?
Be honest
Apologize for losing it and talk it out
Share one of yours
You heard someone whispering and you think you heard your name mentioned. What should you do?
Ignore
Ask them about it calmly. If they were talking about you, then use an I message.
A new student just joined your class from another country and you assumed he was from Mexico because he was Hispanic but he is really from El Salvador. This student was very offended. What should you do?
Apologize to him
Talk it out and let him know you were not trying to be offensive
Be more aware next time and not make the same quick judgments
You are playing a game that requires you to be divided up into teams of 2. You don't like the person you are teamed up with, but the teacher said you have to work together. What should you do?
Stop and think about how that person would feel if you complained about having to work with them
Recognize that it is just for a game and its good to work with new people
Someone started a rumor about you that was not true and very hurtful. You know who started it. What should you do?
After you've cooled off, talk to the person. Let them know how it made you feel and that this is not okay.
Your only friend in the class is hanging out during recess with someone that you don't like. You are getting frustrated by this. What should you do?
Stop and think before acting
Compromise and negotiate playing with your friend
Try and become friends with the other student