Foundation
Listening & Understanding
Working Together
De-escalation & Repair
Putting it into Practice
200

AN OPEN CLASH OR DISAGREEMENT

WHAT IS CONFLICT?

200

HEARING ATTENTIVELY

WHAT IS LISTENING?

200

WORKING JOINTLY TOWARD A GOAL

WHAT IS COLLABORATION?

200

REDUCING INTENSITY

WHAT IS DE-ESCALATION?

200

A PHYSICAL SENSATION OR EMOTION

WHAT IS FEELING?

400

BRINGING ABOUT SETTLEMENT

WHAT IS MEDIATION?

400

EXPRESSING A NEED/DESIRE

WHAT IS REQUEST?

400

AGREEMENT BY A GROUP

WHAT IS CONSENSUS?

400

BRINGING RENEWAL OR HEALING

WHAT IS RESTORATIVE?

400

WANT OR REQUIREMENT

WHAT IS NEED?

600

A PLAN TO RESOLVE A PROBLEM

WHAT IS RESOLUTION?

600

UNDERSTANDING ANOTHER’S FEELINGS

WHAT IS EMPATHY?

600

RESPONSIBILITY TO SOMEONE

WHAT IS ACCOUNTABILITY?

600

A TEMPORARY STOP

WHAT IS PAUSE?

600

THINKING THROUGH SOLUTIONS

WHAT IS PROBLEM-SOLVING?

800

DISCUSSION TO REACH AGREEMENT

WHAT IS NEGOTIATION?

800

RESTATING MESSAGE DIFFERENTLY

WHAT IS PARAPHRASE?

800

LIMIT OR ACCEPTABLE LINE

WHAT IS BOUNDARY?

800

ACKNOWLEDGING FEELINGS

WHAT IS VALIDATION?

800

BRINGING THINGS INTO ORDER

WHAT IS REGULATION?

1000

BOTH SIDES MAKE CONCESSIONS

WHAT IS COMPROMISE?

1000

WAY OF VIEWING A SITUATION

WHAT IS PERSPECTIVE?

1000

BELIEF IN RELIABILITY

WHAT IS TRUST?

1000

AWARENESS OF ONE’S STATE

WHAT IS MINDFULNESS?

1000

HIGH REGARD OR ESTEEM

WHAT IS RESPECT?