All About Conflict
What is a conflict?
A difference of opinion, a fight, an argument or a disagreement
What is "State your feelings/point of view?"
Tell the other person how you feel about the conflict and clearly state your point of view.
There's only one doughnut left. You and your sister reach for it at the same time.
Win-Win, Compromise, Don't sweat the small stuff
What does compete mean?
One person must lose for the other person to win.
Carly loves country music and her boyfriend Jake likes hip-hop music. They try to persuade each other to listen to their favorite songs. After awhile they realize they are not going to change the other's mind and decide to talk about something different.
Agree to Disagree
List 2 things that can cause a conflict.
Bullying, teasing, gossip, jealousy, different opinions or points of view, different values
What is "Steer Clear?"
Recognizing a potential conflict that could be dangerous or it is not your business and you choose to stay away from it.
You saved your money and bought your friend a bracelet for her birthday that you thought she would really like. It's been a couple of weeks and she never wears it.
State your feelings and point of view, Don't sweat the small stuff
When is competition healthy?
When you're playing sports or a board game.
You were supposed to hang out with your cousin over the weekend and see a movie. You had to cancel last minute because something came up. You call her and say "I'm sorry that I can't go to the movies anymore, can we go another day?"
Apologize
What feelings might someone have when they are in a conflict?
Angry, jealous, lonely, confused, sad, disappointed, worried
What is "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff?"
Knowing that getting your way isn't worth the risk of escalating a conflict. We realize what the conflict is about isn't a big deal and it's best to let it go.
You borrow a pencil from your friend for the math test. He asks you to return it after class. You accidentally break his pencil.
Apologize and talk it out
What strategy is used, and is it healthy or unhealthy?
You and your best friend got into an argument because she hasn't hung out with you in awhile. She has been spending all of her time with another friend. You haven't spoken in over a month, even though your best friend has reached out to you to talk about it.
Avoid it - unhealthy
Vivian and Jade are sisters. Jade ate the last of Vivian's thin mint cookies. Even though those are her favorite cookies, Vivian reminds herself that Jade always shares her food. Vivian decides to let it go.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
True or False: Conflict is a normal part of life and it is a part of healthy relationships.
True
What is a "Win-Win?"
Both people talk out the problem to find an alternative (or something different) you both agree on.
When your friends come over you always want to play video games, but they like shooting hoops.
Win-win, compromise, state your feelings and point of view
Why is avoiding a conflict unhealthy?
Resentment can build, it can damage or end a friendship. The conflict may never be resolved and it could make the situation worse.
Theo and Violet have a project due Friday and they have to present it to the class. They are nervous because there is not much time to prepare and they both do not like public speaking. Theo wants Violet to do most of the talking, and Violet wants Theo to do most of the talking. They agree to share the speaking roles equally. Theo will present the first half and Violet will present the second half.
Compromise
What is conflict resolution?
Working out a problem without fighting, running away, or going against your feelings.
What is a "Compromise"?
Both people agree to give up a little, share, or split the difference to solve a conflict.
Your friend makes fun of the Halloween costume that you spent hours making.
State your feelings and point of view, don't sweat the small stuff
What strategy is used, and is it healthy or unhealthy?
Joe and his friend were at a high school football game. During half time, they go to the concession stand and they see some kids start to argue. The conflict is escalating quickly so they decided to watch the half time show and get snacks later.
Steer Clear - healthy
Marcus and Shawna's mom put them in charge of setting the table for their little brother's birthday party. Marcus wants to use red napkins and Shawna wants to use blue napkins. They agree to use white napkins instead.
Win-Win