If Your Brother Sins Against You
According to Matthew 18:15, what is the first thing you should do when someone has sinned against you or hurt you?
What is go and talk to them privately, just between the two of you?
Before telling someone “his fault,” this skill requires you to put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their feelings and point of view.
What is perspective taking?
This phrase means you shouldn’t involve others first when dealing with a conflict because it can create a “you vs them” situation.
What is “Between you and him”?
This listening skill means paying full attention to someone, not just hearing their words but truly understanding their message.
What is active listening?
In Matthew 5:44, Jesus instructs his followers to do this for those who persecute them, demonstrating unconditional love.
What is pray for them?
This is a disagreement, clash, or difference in opinions, wants, or needs?
What is conflict?
This communication style is direct and honest while respecting others, striking a balance between passiveness and aggression.
What is assertiveness?
When you do need help understanding a conflict, this kind of friend helps you see the full picture by encouraging perspective taking, not just taking your side.
What is an ally?
When you actively listen, you do this with your head or give small verbal cues to show you’re paying attention.
What is nodding?
Jesus teaches that responding to hate with this attitude reflects God's perfection and leads to reconciliation.
What is loving your enemies?
This important skill helps you better handle conflicts by recognizing your own thoughts and feelings, and understanding how your actions affect others. When combined with perspective taking, it can lead to stronger relationships and more positive outcomes in disagreements.
What is Self-Awareness
This communication style means accepting others’ opinions or actions without speaking up or responding, often implying immobility or deliberate submission.
What is passiveness?
A true ally does this, which sometimes means telling friends things they don’t want to hear to help them understand others better.
What is helping perspective take?
If you’re the offender in a conflict, this is your opportunity to consider the other person’s feelings and really try to understand what they are saying before responding.
What is practicing empathy?
In his teachings, Jesus emphasizes that true peace comes from this, which involves loving not just friends but also enemies, mirroring God's indiscriminate love.
What is love?
Perspective taking means trying to see things from where?
What is someone else’s point of view or perspective?
Behaviors like yelling, bullying, intimidation, and physical fighting fall under this negative communication style.
What is aggression?
Using others for help in conflicts should only be this, because eventually you want to do this skill on your own to avoid “tainting” someone’s reputation.
What is temporary; perspective take independently?
When expressing your feelings during a conflict, this doesn’t mean you have the freedom to say hurtful things that cause more conflict.
What is “If he listens to you” or communicating honestly but respectfully?
Jesus’ approach to conflict encourages extending this, even to those who have wronged you, as a way to promote peace.
What is generosity?
Conflict often happens because people try to do this when they disagree, believing their opinion is right and the other's is wrong.
What is trying to convince or correct others?
This phrase doesn’t mean just blaming someone without thought; instead, you should first practice perspective taking before addressing an issue with this approach.
What is “Go and tell him his fault”?
This key skill involves understanding your own thoughts and feelings and is important to practice to better handle conflicts without relying on others permanently.
What is self-awareness?
Besides looking and nodding, active listening also involves this to ensure you truly understand the other person’s message and don’t just wait to speak.
What is asking questions or thinking about what they’re saying?
Jesus’ teachings challenge followers to build relationships based on these three qualities: equality, generosity, and this.
What is compassion?