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Listening
Good Body Language and Metamessages
Fair Fighting
Negotiation and Prejudgement
Couples and Children's Communication
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Name the four attributes to Real Listening
What is Understanding Someone, Enjoying Someone, Learning Something, and Giving Help or Solace
100
List 3 parts of the body that can express feelings, emotions or desires
What is hands, face, and legs
100
What is an example of Unfair fighting
What is an encounter between people, in which one person can be blamed by another, which can lead to raised voices, and sometimes even violence.
100
List the four Stages of Negotiation
What is Preparation, Discussion, Proposal-Counterproposal and Agreement or Disagreement
100
What is a Schema
What is a marker you put on someone, based on some behavior they have been doing over a period of time.
200
Name 4 characteristics that someone who is doing Pseudo Listening Uses
What is Making People think you are interested in a Conversation, Being Alert to see if you may be rejected, Listening for one specific piece of information and ignoring everything else, Buying time to prepare yourself for your next comment
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What are the six components of Paralanguage
What is Pitch, Resonance, articulation, tempo, volume, and rhythm.
200
List and explain two unfair fighting styles that you use.
What is Bad Timing and Impossible Demands. Bad Timing is one person placing an agenda or problems onto another person and Impossible Demands are vague and impossible to understand completely.
200
list One rule of negotiation
What is Separating the People from the problem.
200
Name and explain 1 of the systems that couples can fall into.
What is One system in called the Pursuer-Distancer system. This involves one person trying to pursue the other person. However, the other person tries to distance themselves from being pursued by the other person.
300
Explain the comparing listening block
What is using yourself, and comparing yourself to others. Always seeing an d making sure that you are better than someone else.
300
Explain 2 of the components of Paralanguage
What is Pitch. Pitch involves how lose or tight you vocal cords are. Pitch can express feelings as well, such as joy or anger. Lose vocal cords are signs of relaxation or calmness. Articulation is the way you pronounce your words. Articulation can be different, in different situations. Articulation is different between a girlfriend and boyfriend, and doing an interview.
300
Explain the three attitudes towards Fair Fighting
What is Conflict is inevitable, Each person's needs are Valid, Both sides could win. Conflict is inevitable and everyone may have differing desires that they want to be met. Each Person's needs are Valid and all the parties needs and desires are all reasonable things that can be met. Thirdly, A compromise to problems can lead to both sides getting what they want.
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List 2 ways that you can use to help you to continue a negotiation, without wavering from the topic.
What is List options and Brainstorm
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What are 1 step couples can take to decrease couples systems from happening.
What is Explore the role that each person plays in the system. What person plays what? Identify and brainstorm solutions, so that the couples can decrease the system from happening.
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What must happen in order for a person to be an active listener.
What is Being engaged in the conversation, ask many questions, and give valuable feedback to the person you are talking to.
400
What is the definition of a Metamessage
What is Saying something covertly, because you are afraid to say it directly.
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Explain two rules that are used in Fair Fighting
What is Set a Time and State the problem. Find a time and a place to resolve the conflict, and state the problem so that you can describe the issues at hand and come up with legitimate solutions to the problem.
400
list two Traps that one can fall into that can lead to prejudgement
What is Opponents having all the power, and an opponent plays dirty.
400
What are 2 ways that you can successfully express your needs and desires to children.
What is Showing consistency can help parents express ideas well to their children. Create consistent rules, so that children get consistent messages of what is expected of them. Show Non-Judgement towards children, by using rude behavior, or by blaming a child. Instead give information that a child can use, that is not disrespectful to the child.
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Give a personal example, of one listening block that you have limited in your life.
What is placating. I have limited this block, by expressing my opinions, letting my feelings and desires be met. When in conflict with my mom over which restaurant to go to, I normally go along with what she wants, but instead i expressed which restaurant I wanted to go to, and we went their instead
500
List and explain a component of Paralanguage, you would like to work on in your personal life.
What is Articulation. I want to focus, on being more engaging especially during presentations, where i tend to struggle a lot. I want to pronounce my words and get my point across.
500
List a Personal example, of one of the rules of fair fighting, that you have used.
What is Purposing change. One example, is that when my mom and I were not communicating well with one another, i stated that I would change, and communicate my needs right when I get home from work.
500
List a personal example, of a way in which you used Brainstorming to get a solution to a problem.
What is Brainstorming. My dad and I were having problems with me not telling him my work schedule. He needed to know, because I share the car with my sisters, who also use it for work. We set a time to talk about the problem, and now we use a calendar, to see what everyone's schedule is.
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From your personal life, list an example of a couples system you fall into, and explain a solution to the problem.
What is the Blamer-Placater system that couples fall into. In my relationship with my ex-girlfriend, we spread apart because I was always blaming her for everything. One way that I could have dealt with the problem, would have been to address the problem at hand.