What's In My Control?
What is one thing you can always control?
actions, choices, attitude, or response.
You can influence a friendship by:
Communicating, being respectful, spending time together.
Can you change the past?
No
A friend doesn't text you back.
Control, Influence, or Cannot Control?
Cannot Control
You are worried about something happening next week. What should you focus on instead?
What I can do today to prepare.
True or False:
You can control how other people feel about you.
False
Can you control whether someone forgives you?
No
Name something many people worry about that they cannot control.
Others' opinions, weather, traffic, past mistakes, etc.
You decide to attend group and participate.
Control, Influence, or Cannot Control?
Control
You can't control whether someone likes you. What can you focus on instead?
Being authentic, respectful, and true to yourself.
Name two things that are within your control when you're upset.
Coping skills, breathing, walking away, asking for help, self-talk, etc.
You apologize sincerely to someone. Did you control their reaction or influence it?
Influence it
What happens when we focus too much on things we can't control?
Increased stress, anxiety, frustration, helplessness.
You ask a family member to listen to your feelings.
Control, Influence, or Cannot Control?
Influence
A client is upset because another resident is being annoying. What is one thing they can focus on that is within their control?
Their reaction, boundaries, coping skills, asking for support, walking away, etc.
If someone says something rude to you, what part of the situation is in your control?
How you respond.
You study hard for a test. Can you guarantee the outcome?
No, but you can influence it.
What is a healthy way to respond to something outside your control?
Acceptance, coping skills, focusing on what can be controlled.
Someone disagrees with your opinion.
Control, Influence, or Cannot Control?
Cannot Control
Finish the sentence:
"When I focus on things I can control, I feel more ______."
Calm, confident, empowered, hopeful, less stressed, etc.
Why is focusing on things you can control beneficial?
Reduces stress, increases confidence, improves problem-solving.
Give an example of something you can influence but not control.
Relationships, family communication, trust, teamwork, etc.
What phrase can help remind us to let go of what we can't control?
Answer: Examples:
You use coping skills before reacting during an argument.
Control, Influence, or Cannot Control?
Control
A family member says something hurtful during a phone call. Name: