Red/Green Flags
My friend and I go to each other's sporting events to show support.
GREEN
What is the difference between conditional and unconditional love?
Conditional- Based on performance, actions, or specific criteria being met.
Unconditional- Affection given freely without restrictions, accepting someone regardless of actions or flaws.
My partner is always right, and I'm always wrong. I think it's just better to keep my mouth shut.
NOT SO SMART
What is the longest amount of time that we recommend you to take space for yourself?
No more than 24 hours.
How should you start off a complaint?
A gentle start
Sometimes I feel like I have to hold my tongue when something my friend does bothers me, or my friend will take it the wrong way.
RED
What does the term infatuation mean?
Infatuation: An intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.
I don't have to be perfect. Sure, there are things that I want to improve. But basically, I want a person who likes me for who I really am.
SMART
Name 2 bad ways to complain.
Mind reading
Name calling
Blaming
You always, You never
Kitchen Sinking
Cross Complaining
What is the Speaker Listener Technique?
While one person is talking, the other person listens.
My friend and I spend a lot of time together. But when my friend is around her other friends, we go weeks without talking. I shouldn't complain though because we have our time to hang out.
RED (inconsistency)
When we discussed "baggage", what was the important thing that we said about baggage?
Baggage can be positive and negative.
How many Principles are there for a Smart Friendship?
7.
Name 2 danger signs when communicating.
Put Downs
Escalation
Negative Interpretations
Avoidance
What is the term for "Happens when you bring up a complaint, and the other person immediately turns the conversation around and says, "Yeah but what about when you did such and such."
Cross Complaining
Makes fun of you constantly in a biting way... and then says, "Oh I was just kidding."
RED
What are the three sides of the friendship triangle?
Chemistry, Trust& Commitment, Friendship
Name a bad way to break up with a partner or friend.
Do it through a text, Get a friend to tell them, Don't say anything but put it on your social media, Ghosting, Post a photo or video of you and someone else, Go out with their best friend, Do things to make the person break up with you, Say, "we can still hang as friends"
We talked about the brain and how it works. What was the name of the 2 personalities?
Amy and Flo
What does WWA stand for?
What? (What is the issue you are adressing)
When, Where? (When and/or Where did this happen)
Affect (How did this affect you)
Changes friends frequently
GREEN- Some teens may say green flag. They may say something along the lines of: they changed because they were going down a wrong path or when they were younger, they were just trying to fit in and trying out different groups.
RED- A sign that a person cannot sustain friendships.
What is the term for: 'It helps explain the tendency to obsessively think about the person. It reduces our ability to judge.'
Serotonin
Name two of the Principles of a Smart Friendship.
Seek a good match.
Pay attention to values.
Don't try to change a person into someone else.
Don't try to change yourself to keep someone's friendship.
Expect good communication.
Don't play games, be phony, pressure, or use someone.
Expect respect.
Have standards for how you want to be treated.
What does the acronym 'VIEW' stand for?
V- Valuable
I- Important
E- Equal
W- Worthy
What does the term "Kitchen Sinking" mean?
Kitchen Sinking: When you start with one complaint and then throw in another, ultimately overwhelming the person.