Social Skills
A friend has borrowed something from you and hasn't given it back. What can you do?
Talk to him, Use I-statements, share your feelings
You and mom disagree on picking up a mess. Act out how you can handle this in a safe and calm manner.
Negotiate, share feelings, think of options
How might you feel if someone accidentally messes up your project in class?
Frustrated, angry, mad, calm
Name two ways to calm down when you feel angry or frustrated
Take deep breaths, go for a walk, use a fidget, wall pushups, squeeze a stress ball
Progressive muscle relaxation
Squeeze a lemon, stretch like a cat, hide in turtle shell
Your mom has a new toy/game that you really like. You ask to see it and she says no. What can you do?
Find another toy/game, talk it out, use I-statements
You get into an argument with a classmate about an assignment. Act out how you can take care of this in a safe way.
Use I-statements, ignore, walk away, deep breaths, ask teacher for help.
Name 6 emotions
angry, sad, frustrated, annoyed, happy, excited, embarrassed, silly, tired, hungry, lonely, shy, ecstatic, upset, disappointed
True or false: Writing, drawing, deep breathing, and listening to music are healthy ways to deal with strong emotions
True
Practice two breathing strategies
Lazy 8, box breathing, bubble breathing
Someone in class wants to be your partner for a project. You don't want to work with them. What can you say?
Share how you feel assertively and respectfully, help them find a different partner
Your mom asks your to clean your room and you don't feel like doing it. Act out how you would handle this in a calm manner. What would help if you need to do it?
Use I-statements, share feelings, negotiate. Use coping skills to calm self down to be able to complete the task.
Show me what anger looks like for you
Identify body sensations, scale, thoughts
Talk about a coping skill that is helpful for you
request a break, journal, deep breathing, drink water, count to 10, talk to someone, color/draw, etc.
Mindfulness exercise
energy hands, butterfly breathing
Someone in your class bumps into your desk and knocks everything over. How can you respond?
Take deep breaths, possibly ask them to help pick it up
You're feeling frustrated and want to throw something. What else can you do? Act it out.
Share feelings, take deep breaths, walk away, tell an adult
True: emotions are messages from our brain and body about how we feel about a situation
How do you know when to use a coping skill?
When you begin feeling frustrated, agitated, or overwhelmed, physically you may feel "hot", muscles may be tense and you may be unable to relax.
Think of your peaceful place
Close your eyes and describe in detail
You threw your friends ball and it is now stuck on the roof and they are really upset with you. What would you do?
Take a deep breath. Apologize. Understand their feelings. Ask what you can do to help them feel better.
You are excited about a new book and want to share about it to your family, but they are currently busy. Act out how you can handle this calmly.
Use coping kills to help self be patient- breathing, distract yourself. Ask when they will be available or ready to listen to you.
You notice your friend is feeling sad. They ask you what they should do to manage the feeling. What do you say/do?
Talk to them, draw about it, play, talk to an adult, etc.
Why are coping skills helpful?
They help calm or ground you, they help us have better control of our emotions, they relieve stress
Grounding exercise
5, 4, 3, 2, 1 breathing